However, there is someone who lives there whom I don’t ever want to see, but I know I will see them regularly as their circle of interests and friends overlaps with mine, and without fail, every time I go back for a visit, I see this person.
The reason I don’t ever want to see this person is because they sexually assaulted and attempted to murder a close friend of my family. The victim was already terminally ill with cancer when the assaults took place, and she died two weeks later. The perpetrator got off without significant jail time (basically ordered to stay with family and see a shrink) and is happily existing in the city, cropping up wherever I want to spend time.
How can I live with the anger and disgust I feel toward this person? The knowledge that they even exist in the city I want to call home makes me shake with anger. All of my hopes for starting a new life are tainted with their presence. If and when I see this person, should I say something? How can I not? One of my dreams is to open a business there. Would I be able to bar them from entering my business? What if they retaliate by attacking me or my family, or sabotaging my business?
As you can see, this is really eating away at me and any advice you have would be most appreciated. — Tainted Hopes
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