In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
We live about 150 miles away from each other so I guess he could easily be hiding another girlfriend, but I just always trusted him so the thought never even entered my mind. I mean, he introduced me to his grandma five weeks after we started dating. Wouldn’t she know if he had two girlfriends? So bizarre. I don’t wanna confront him just so he can lie to me, so how do I find out the truth? Also, I don’t wanna just break up without giving a reason, especially since he just told me that he might have cancer.
There was another thing I was concerned about. In a question that was dated two months ago he said his girlfriend loves making out (I do) but that he hates it and that he just likes sex but making out is boring and a waste of time and makes him want to throw up. I feel like that’s not normal and it’s a red flag. And the weird part is that we haven’t had sex; we’ve come close to it but I told him when we first started dating that I want to be a virgin ’til I’m married and he said that he’s OK with that.
I was wondering if you could shed some light on that but mostly I want to know how I can figure out the truth without asking him cause I don’t know whether he’ll lie or not. — Truth-Seeker