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In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
Is it bad to feel upset when my boyfriend said his friend is hot? He also said he loves me and that I have a beautiful body. He said that ‘hot’ is only the outside, but ‘beautiful’ is on the inside and the outside. I just can’t get those words out of my head, though. All I keep thinking is that he is gonna want to be with her sexually. He has already accidentally cheated once. He was at a party and a girl started dancing with him and he said he would kiss her if she set her friend up with his buddy. When she did, he only kissed her on the cheek, but then she started asking him to go back to her place, and then she forcefully threw herself on him and kissed him on the lips. He told me as soon as he got home, and he was crying, and told me it meant nothing.
He is always straight-up and honest with me. It is just when he talks about other girls that I get sick to my stomach. He used to masturbate to other girls on Facebook, even after we started dating. And then I found out and it took three times of me catching him for him to finally stop. Could you shed some light on his behavior? — Beautiful vs. Hot