In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
Toward the end of the evening he asked me to stay the night with him but it came out of the blue! We hadn’t really been flirting — just chatting — and he hadn’t given me any indication he fancied me; we hadn’t kissed or anything, so I was a bit shocked and just replied with a ‘NO,’ and quickly changed the subject. We chatted for about another hour then he disappeared. I thought he had gone to the toilet but his sister said he would have gone to bed as that’s what he does when he just disappears after he’s had enough to drink.
I was a bit disappointed he went straight to the “lets f**k,” rather than ask me out on a date, which I would of jumped at the chance if he had asked. We both had been drinking a lot, so it’s left me wondering if he just thought I would be an easy lay? Or did he feel so comfortable with me it just felt right? We didn’t exchange phone numbers and I am now over-analyzing everything! How do I act or what do I say when I see him again, as I am bound to do as I have arranged to meet a couple of girlfriends in the same pub next Saturday. I really like him but I don’t want to be just a notch on his bed post. Should I act like the asking me up to bed didn’t happen and just speak to him like normal? Or am I wasting my time on this guy? — Back on the Scene