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My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. Coming into this relationship I knew he would occasionally do coke when we would go out for drinks with friends. It never really bothered me until we were a for-sure couple. Then, I told him how I felt about it and we would get into little arguments because: a) of course, after a couple of drinks you get horny and want some, but he can’t perform when he does coke, so that gets me mad; and B) When I ask him if he has done it, he lies. ALL THE TIME.
I’m okay with him doing drugs — I have moved past that, but I’m not ok with the lying to me all the time about it. Am I over-reacting? He is my best friend and he just lies to me and thinks it’s okay. Well, I don’t find that okay, and if I confront him about the lies, he makes me feel horrible and tells me that I am trying to control his life. — Tired of His Coke Lies