In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
Six years later after meeting and becoming friends, I would really like to have sex with him. He told me he would really like to as well, but he doesn’t want to take my virginity. He said he doesn’t feel that it’s right and he would hold too much responsibility. I was kind of taken aback as this came from a sex-crazed type of overly-confident guy. I was giving him permission to have sex with me and he was declining, which is odd from someone who nearly begged me to sleep with him over and over. Now, he refuses to ever hang out anymore because he says the “temptation” is too much to handle.
My question is: Do you think he genuinely cares about me? Or do you think that he doesn’t want to have sex with me because I’m inexperienced? Or perhaps he feels I will become too attached? Even though he says he doesn’t want to pursue me, he always shows signs that he really likes me. — Confused Virgin
If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at firstname.lastname@example.org.