In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
And yesterday, he admitted to me he has masturbated to my friend’s facebook pictures. Not once, but two or three times. The same friend. I am hurt more by this than by him jerking off to porn. His sexual fantasies are being fulfilled by someone I know personally — someone who is a real person in our lives. I am really hurt because I feel he cheated on me. And on top of that I feel stupid for believing that modesty and class is valued by men like him. I don’t have a bunch of pictures in bikinis and skimpy clothing on my Facebook. And I feel stupid for believing him when he tells me that I look great, even when I feel I need to lose some weight. When all that really tickles his fancy are skinny girls in skimpy clothing.
I know he is working out his problems, but I fear that eventually, though he’ll make peace with himself, I won’t make peace with him or this feeling. — Not a Skinny Facebook Girl