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In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
I have been living in remote locations (rural and removed from town) with my husband who must have large acreage for his many, many horses (we have four dogs to boot). Though I have tried for years to grin and bear it, I can no longer live in such an isolated area. I am in town every day, which involves nearly 80 miles of driving round-trip just to take care of errands or to enjoy myself with some friends or handle kids’ activities. It’s gotten to the point where I just hate to be in that house with all the animals and the dirt from the farm and the constant chores. I’m trying to be a part-time student and a mother, but I find myself completely overwhelmed with constant domestic duties, and I rarely get a chance to just enjoy quiet or my kids or to sit for extended periods to work on schoolwork. I can’t help but imagine that life would be so much more relaxing, and less complicated, without the isolation and with a smaller home (ours is currently over 5000 square feet). I want ME time and, though I love my husband, it’s time for my needs to be met too. I’m not sure how to make that happen, or if his needs supersede mine, or if we will never see eye to eye. He loves his many animals and the farm life. I miss living close to civilization and long for a more manageable lifestyle. — Tired of The Horse Shit
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