In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
I have been seeing a guy for about seven months, but I am worried to become more serious due to his family situation. He supports his entire family, meaning he works a lot and money is really tight. I wouldn’t have such an issue with it if I didn’t feel that his family was taking advantage of him. His mother does not work due to medical issues, so I understand helping her. But both of his sisters have children with no support from the fathers, yet one has been out of a job for over 5 years and the other only works sporadically. Neither sister is looking for another job. I think that it is awesome that he helps out so much (paying rent, buying food, etc), but I’m terrified what will happen if his sisters get pregnant again. I don’t think he should abandon his family, but I wish he would insist that they carry their own weight. What concerns me is helping his family would delay or even rule out buying a home, having children of our own, etc. Is it my place to say something, and if so, what can I ask?