In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
However, recently he started talking to his ex. And the only thing he mentioned to her about me was that “she’s young and it shows sometimes.” I have to admit that really hurt me because he is constantly telling me how amazing and wonderful I am and that he loves me, but the only thing he tells his ex is something negative about me.
It doesn’t feel right. I feel like we are getting distant, and the other night for the first time he couldn’t maintain an erection during sex. This is also the first time we have been intimate since he starting talking to this woman again.
I feel petty and insecure, and it could possibly be my hangups that are causing the problems, but I don’t know if my feelings are rational or irrationally based off of jealousy. He won’t talk about his exes at all with me. All I know about her is that they lived together and she broke up with him. Safe to say, I’m confused. — Young But Trying
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