In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
One day on the phone I told him he really didn’t have to say that anymore — that I was over my ex and didn’t want to be disappointed. He told me that he was serious and that he wasn’t trying to string me along. At first I though, “If you really want to marry me, why aren’t we dating?” My cousin pointed out that we were. I just thought we were hanging out a lot. So I asked him if he had any plans to break up with his current girl. He asked me if I was interested in dating seriously, and I said, “yeah sure.”
Well sure enough, nothing changed for a couple of months but we still continued to hang out: movies, dinner, hanging out with his sister every now and then. The girlfriend had no clue we are hanging out. We don’t hang out as much anymore because I moved home for awhile, but he does call me to complain about his girlfriend. Then, while talking to him a couple nights ago he told me that he was moving in with his girlfriend which totally floored me. So I asked him about he and I being in a relationship and he says that he wants to be with me and that he’s only moving in with her for financial reasons.
Well, at this point I have totally given up, although I did ask were we still getting married, and he said yes. Now, I am taking him at his actions as opposed to his words. They don’t match up and more than likely I am the other woman, and I am being strung along. If I am, what do you suggest? Should I cut ties, or remain the friend and just not hang out? — At a Crossroads