In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
During the time we were trying to be friends he asked if I wanted to go to his friend’s wedding with him Sept. 1st and I said yes. Well, a friend I have known since 6th grade (a girl, mind you) recently asked me if I wanted to go on a free cruise for my birthday to Jamaica. I told her yes. My birthday is Sept. 8th, and the cruise is from the 2nd to the 9th. For me to get to the port in time I would need to leave Sept. 1st, which means I am going to miss the wedding. I feel horrible about it, but at the same time I don’t really know the guy who is getting married and I wanted to do something for my birthday.
I asked Jake and he told me to go on the cruise since it would be good for me. But here’s the problem: Jake wants to take another girl. See, I don’t have a problem with him taking another girl, but should he at least take into consideration my feelings as to who it is going to be? I mean, considering he just told me he wants to be with me and that he is going to prove he means it this time. I know I told him I needed time to make sure he is the best thing for me, but I also wanted him to prove he wanted me, and in my opinion I think his telling me I can’t have my cake and eat it too seems like he still doesn’t care as much as he says he does.
Should I be mad at him for not taking my feelings into consideration or should I just let it go because I did back out of going to the wedding? — Fourth Time’s a Charm?
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