In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
Jake broke up with his ex two months before he and I started hanging out because he said she was crazy, on drugs, and all this jazz. Well, we started hanging out and I got pregnant, and by the time I realized it (about 4 1/2 weeks along), the ex-girlfriend was back in the picture. Jake said he did not care for and was trying to find a way to get rid of her.
Well, anyway, when I told Jake I was pregnant, he said he had no problem with me having an abortion but didn’t talk about it much. Long story short, he knew I was pregnant but then kept talking about how emotional he felt when his ex became pregnant last year (she had an abortion) like I didn’t even matter. He knows I want to be serious and don’t want him to waste my time. The first time he went to see his ex was just to help her — clean her dishes, wipe her counters, and keep her company. He lied about where he was going then confessed it was to see her. He always keeps saying “be patient with me” when I say I am going to move on. The second time he went to see his ex was just to “help her” again. After the third time, he called to talk to me about a fight they got in and I got upset and told him to stay out of life and that I didn’t want to be his therapist. He freaked out and never texted me again. Even when I had my abortion, he wasn’t there for me. He never called to follow up either.
I waited two weeks and then called him. There was a ring and then a busy signal and then he texted me to say “I will call you on Tuesday, I am a little stressed out with court…please do not call or text today.” Well, that Tuesday came and he never contacted me (this is unlike him). We were never official but it would have been nice for him to show some consideration.
I still have not heard from him — I do not plan on calling him again — and I am very angry. It’s like he just ran away and doesn’t care. I am not sure what I was to him in the first place but I need closure and I am so angry and want revenge. I am a pretty decent gal with a lot of great qualities but I guess that’s not enough. Can someone please tell me why he is acting this way and what I should do to heal? No one understands and I can’t take about my abortion with just anybody. — Disappointed
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