Welcome back to work on this Tuesday after a holiday weekend! I’m catching up on emails and spending some time with my sister who is here for a few more hours, and I just got some terrible news that a good friend’s local business — the coffee shop where I always work on DW — caught on fire overnight, so I’m running over to lend some support and see if there’s anything I can do. Sorry to throw another Your Turn up again so soon after a recent one, but I’m sure you’ll make do. There are also some new letters up in the forums, and oh, check out this cute pic from the DC meetup over the weekend.
Last year, he came out and told me he wasn’t sure how he felt about me anymore. He said I was cold and unloving and rejected him on many occasions over a period of a year. I was stunned! I wasn’t even aware of my actions because he never communicated them or told me I had hurt him. So he bottled it all up and then exploded! I felt I was just hit in the knees and totally fell apart.
We had many sleepless nights, went through much stress, and finally decided to get married and put it all behind us. This decision was made three months ago. Our lease was coming to an end and so we decided to move together to a different home and province. Things seemed good. We were excited to be in a new environment and were setting/furnishing our place until the subject of marriage came up.
He now says he’s not sure he wants to go ahead with it. He’s not sure if I’m the one. I’m really confused and not sure what this is all about. He doesn’t have cold feet.
We are both 56 years old and were married for many years before we met. I was married 32 years and he was married 23.
I would really appreciate any input or advice! — Maybe Not the One?
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