Everyone came to our wedding from out of state and several family members stayed in our home. Three days before the wedding, his entire family of twenty-two people took over our place and helped themselves to our food, including all of our clearly-marked wedding reception food in the basement — cheese, cupcakes, crackers and all the food for the BBQ, including eighty hotdogs and fifty-four hamburgers and all our beer. They ate everything. When we told them that they had eaten all our reception food, they told us to “just go buy more.” After some very private tears, my parents, who honestly could not afford it, got us and themselves hotel rooms and hastily bought a bunch of food for my reception. We cut out beer because we simply could not afford it.
For our cookout, we bought more hotdogs and chips. Twenty-nine people ate 120 hotdogs within minutes. His family was taking four or five at a time. I never ate. After the wedding ceremony, my husband’s family charged the reception and ate every piece of food before I or any other guests even got there. We had enough food for four times the number of our guests, and, yet, by the time I made the 3-minute walk from our park ceremony to the reception site, only empty platters remained. My husband’s father bitched several times to my parents that there was no beer, and his mother got pissy with my mom about running out of appetizers.
My parents put $1500 or more on their credit card to help us cover expenses his family caused, including calling a plumber the last day everyone was in my home after someone flushed a bunch of pads down the toilet. None of my husband’s family offered to pay for any of the food for the four to six days they all stayed in my home. In fact, they complained to my husband and me that they needed milk and eggs.
I don’t care about wedding gifts, but not one person in his family even sent us a thank you or card. Some of them make a lot more money than we do. My husband was surprised at how much food they ate, but not upset. He does not know of the snide comments to my parents. Should I tell him? Should I snap back when I still get comments about running out of wedding supplies?” — Eaten Out of House and Home (And Wedding)
If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at firstname.lastname@example.org.