In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
His dad and his girlfriend have always loved me and accepted me and are very sweet to me. I have only been around his mother early on in our relationship when we had been going out for about 8 months — we went to their family cabin and spent the weekend. I thought it went pretty well, but then when we got home I guess his mother told him that I was too quiet and she didn’t really like me. e had me over to his house a couple more times for dinner, and while she acted nice, afterwards she would tell him she didn’t like me and really didn’t want him to be with me.
Even though his mom didn’t approve of us, our relationship seemed to flourish and we are very much in love and he tells me that he wants to marry me and we have talked about having kids. But then about 4 months ago, we got into a little argument about something stupid and he let his mom know and then she was relentless about him breaking up with me. For the last four months he has let her think he broke up with me, but we’ve actually been together and we have never been happier, because is not relentlessly talking negative about me and nagging him to break up with me.
Last week, his mom asked him if he was dating someone and he couldn’t lie to her so he told her the truth. She freaked out and has been making his life miserable again and he even told me she is influencing his thoughts about whether we should we be together. I know he loves me more than anything and I don’t know what to say or do to help him.
He told me tonight he’s going to talk to his dad about it, but also told me that whatever his dad says is what’ll happen. feel so bad for him and don’t want him to be miserable at home just to be with me, even though I know he won’t be happy without me. I don’t know why his mom hates me so much or why I’m not good enough. She never even gave me a chance, or to try to get to know me. She doesn’t even know me at all. — Disliked By His Mom
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