In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
Unfortunately, I have always felt like his family were not that fond of me. I have always been polite and tried my best to get on with them, yet I feel like sometimes they think I am not good enough for their son. When my boyfriend first got his new job in a different city, we agreed I’d move with him, but his dad basically said that I was not allowed to move in with him, though we did move in together almost a year ago and it has been great. When I had my depression, his parents acted like I was fishing for attention and I felt a little uncomfortable around his family after that.
I still haven’t found a job in our new city — it’s hard when everyone wants experience but no one will give you the chance to get it — and his mum is always asking when I am going to get a job, like I am choosing not to. I really want one — being stuck at home all day kills me — but his mother thinks I am lying and making excuses.
I just want them to like me. I want to talk to my boyfriend about it, but I don’t want to make him angry at me or anything like that. I don’t want to lose him. but I don’t know who else I can talk to. — On Their Bad Side
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