One of my concerns is about my daughter going to my ex’s parents house for visitation. I want my daughter to have a relationship with her dad, but I don’t want her around his parents. His mother is very controlling and seems to want to have my ex at her disposal at all times. I have tried my very best to get along with her, but she has insulted me in every way possible. When I was 8 months pregnant and visiting her, she made me hide in her room for three hours because her pastor had shown up for a surprise visit and she was embarrassed that my ex and I were having a baby out of wedlock. Meanwhile, my ex went to church with her and I was not included because his mother wanted to protect her reputation. I begged my ex to go to church with me and he never would. I tried to tell him how his mother had hurt me, but he didn’t stand up for me and our unborn daughter.
His mother has made it clear that she doesn’t approve of me or my daughter. She purposely did not come to my daughter’s first birthday two months ago because “she had errands to run.” She has made snide remarks about my daughter being rotten, and so has my ex’s sister as well as her teenage son! His mother and sister have suggested that my son is autistic when it is obvious he is not. My daughter and son are both ignored by his family while his other two children are favored. I really don’t want to send my daughter around these toxic people! Please, any advice would be helpful. — Concerned Mom
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