I’m about to enter the last semester of my sophomore year in college and I have YET to find a solid group of friends. I hang out with lots of these people, but I’m a floater. I float from group to group, never really finding people to stick to because it just never…flows like that. I feel like I would have to force it. And then I get depressed because I feel like a freak who can’t make friends yet. I know they like me, because they ask me to hang with them from time to time, but I’m sure they don’t want another person to add to their troupe. I think I’m running out of time to find that group…
My boyfriend, who is about to graduate from college, has a solid and wonderful group of friends whom he’s been hanging with since freshman year. Since we began dating, he has introduced them to me, and since I was new to college, I hung around with mostly them. (All the while meeting people in my dorm on my own time and so on.) But now that we’ve been dating longer, my boyfriend wants to meet MY friends. He thinks I’m hiding him from them, but honestly, I’m not! I just have no “solid” friends who I could really have him hang out with. The people I do hang out with, we usually just do small stuff like play video games or watch movies from time to time, but they’re not close, so I feel like it would be awkward bringing another new face along.
I feel like I have to lie to him so he doesn’t think I’m some kind of loser who can’t make friends. I just tell him, “Ah, they’re not doing anything tonight.. But next time, we’ll hang for sure!” I feel bad for saying this. I don’t like lying. But I don’t like him knowing I have trouble making friends, especially when he’s already so good at it. Who wants to date someone like that? Actually, who wants to date someone so insecure. I know I have to tell the truth. I just don’t know how to say it. What should I do? — Feeling Friendless
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