In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
I remember saying that, even though I had always opposed the war against Iraq and was against the government’s adopted policies, I respected the soldiers who had served during this time. He then went on to say that the prisoners had it easy, and how the whole story had been twisted (the last thing I expected to hear). He showed me a couple of scars he had suffered as a consequence of the time he served in Gitmo. He said that no form of torture had ever occurred and that, on the contrary, prisoners were served with Pizza Hut or Burger King after interrogations and most of the interrogations that had been taped had never showed any form of abuse. He further added that everything we have heard was just BS and that the media had focused more on the prisoners than on the soldiers, who had a rougher time.
As he was telling me this, I couldn’t believe what was coming out of his mouth. It just seemed he kind of wanted to hide everything; I don’t know if deep down he was ashamed, but I felt very confused. I know that the military is very transformative — and of course for me it’s easy to say what’s right or wrong — but I would have rather heard that he didn’t want to talk about it rather than pretending or trying to convince me that Gitmo was a heavenly place. I really like this guy, and I know it’s not his fault he had been sent to Gitmo; he was probably placed there. I don’t know if he literally ever hurt anyone; I couldn’t bear to ask and I don’t think it would have been appropriate. How can I cope with this? I do like him and enjoy being with him, but I am torn with everything I heard. — Haunted by Gitmo
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