In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
I am a virgin and he has had 16 partners (me being the 17th when we finally do meet) and that really bugs me. Is that normal? Why do you think I feel that way? Also, he’s really into some kinky stuff such as video taping and what not.
I feel like nothing is going to be special for us because he’s already done almost everything and I’m not sexually experienced at all. Am I in the wrong to feel bad? I tell him I don’t want to do things he’s already done because I feel as if it won’t be special to him, but he promises me that it will be because he’s never had such immense, strong feelings for someone like me.
I just feel like my jealousy over his sexual past, which is constantly on the back of my mind, is going to get in the way. What I can do to get over this? – New to the Game
If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at firstname.lastname@example.org.