In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
During the first trimester of my pregnancy, I was tired and nauseated, so I wasn’t really dressing up like I did before I got pregnant. Being tired and nauseated, the last thing I was thinking about most of the time was make up and tight clothes. This should be understandable, right? Well, my boyfriend tells me that his mother was laughing and talking behind my back about how I was dressed when we dropped him off at the airport a couple of weeks ago. She tells him that I should have dressed up. My boyfriend was laughing as he told me what his mother said, so I assume that they were both mocking me behind my back. I didn’t find it funny at all. In fact, why would he tell me something like that, knowing that I am pregnant and kind of sensitive about appearance currently?
Since I have been pregnant, it feels like my boyfriend is emotionally distant. I have talked to him about it but he just says I am overreacting or reading too much into it. I am not happy with him gone, with the emotional distance between us, and dealing with this pregnancy alone. I don’t feel understood or supported emotionally during this pregnancy so far. I am trying to be strong during this deployment, but it is very difficult. I don’t know what else to do, I need some advice please! — Pregnant with Deployed Boyfriend’s Baby