In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
Unfortunately, I have come to a crossroads where I can’t be with him anymore under these circumstances. He still lives at home with his mother and older brother as well so my going to his house is out of the question as his mother would never allow it. He says he is so scared of losing me forever but yet will not make the effort to bring me into his life. So I continue to spend Christmas and holidays alone without being part of his family get-togethers.
It is tearing me apart inside that I broke up with him but at the same time I know I had no other choice. We are so great together and he has bonded with me and my friends and family so well, but he does not ever want to move away from his family and his job is walking distance from his home. But for me, I just cannot settle anymore. I want to be accepted and I want the same for my children, so if you have any thoughts or advice for me that would be wonderful as I am so hurting in all of this. — Left in the Shadows