In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
My boyfriend and I are in our mid-20s and have been together for over a year. We love each other more than anything and have been discussing spending the rest of our lives together. We do everything together whether our friends are along or not and rarely drink. However, one night about three months ago when I had to work the next day, he went out and drank with one of his friends. They knew the bartender where they were and he gave them many free shots. My boyfriend called me belligerent and even puking. He had never seen or been to the house he was staying at until that night (after he was already very drunk). He left the house to call me. Once we got off the phone, he tried to get back into the house and couldn’t so he started to kick the door until it finally gave in … only to find it wasn’t the correct house. He then went to the next house and did the same thing. He didn’t touch anything and left right when he saw it wasn’t the right home.
Anyway, he blew a .16 on a breathalyzer test when the police found him walking down the street and took him in. He didn’t remember doing any of it. However, he now has felony charges against him and the lawyer said he will most likely receive trespassing with no jail time but a Class D felony because of the damages being so large. I love him more than anything and he hasn’t had a drop to drink since (and says he never will). He is a good kid, treats me great, and has a good record, great family, etc. We always have so much fun together but I just don’t know if I could be with a felon. I know that having a felony on his record is terrible for job aspects; however, he does his own construction so it wouldn’t affect his business much as he is well respected around the area. Help! This is hurting me more than ever and I’m not sure how to handle it. — Felony Love