In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
I feel so stupid. I saw so many red flags, but I wanted more than anything for them to be wrong. I’m not sure what to do. A majority of addicts will relapse over and over until they overdose. I’m not sure why he felt he couldn’t tell me because I’m nothing but supportive towards him. When he does pop pills or smokes weed or anything else, I’m so cavalier about it, but this drug is pure evil!
He’s been through it so many times and is miserable, so why does he keep doing it to himself? Watching him go through withdrawal is heart-breaking. The fact he lied and that he would do it while we are living together is heart-breaking. I don’t know what to do. Do you have advice? — His Other Love is Heroin
If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at firstname.lastname@example.org.