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In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
I have been with my boyfriend, Gary, for two years and we now live together. Gary has been divored from his ex-wife for 12 years and she’s still bitter. She had an fling after 23 years of marrige to get out of the marriage. Their 30-year-old daughter, Elaine, lives with the mother and is getting married soon. Elaine recently called and asked Gary to dinner at her fiancé’s parents’ home to meet them. Her mother won’t be there — she met the new in-laws the week before. Elaine told Gary bring his dad, her grandpa, for dinner but did not extend an invite to me.
I am hurt that I was not included. Gary said it was the ex-wife’s doing and left it at that! But I feel that Elaine is 30 years old and she has her own mind! I have have had her and her mother at my house many times for dinner birthdays, etc. We seemed to get along great…never a problem. Now I’m not sure where this leaves me at the wedding or even future parties. Am I being over sensitive? — Left Out