In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
Fast forward six months and one night while she was taking a shower, she left her cell phone on the couch next to me. Her text notification went off and I glanced over at it and saw at the top of the phone a message I never expected. It was from another man who she told me was a tutor friend of hers at college. I could not stop myself from going into her text messages. I know I was wrong for that, but what he sent was nasty and I needed to investigate further. He texted her that he wanted her to send him pictures of private parts and he would do it for her.
I confronted her about it and she claimed that it was a joke. I told her I thought it was inappropriate for them to talk that way to each other. She then slipped up and told me he was an ex-lover and that’s why they joked that way. I felt betrayed, but she finally cut ties with him.
A month later, I came home from work and went on my laptop and saw that she had left open her Facebook messages from another ex-lover making sexual comments I won’t dare repeat. Again, I confronted her, and again she told me that they were just harmless jokes. Then enters man number three who sends her a love letter that she meant to put in her bag but put in mine by mistake.
There has been a rift between us since that first text I read. I have been fighting to get back that person I first met, but she’s not having any part of it. She keeps pushing me away. Please help. — Frustrated Boyfriend
If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at firstname.lastname@example.org.