We have now been living together for five years and the children (now 19 and 20) still don’t know about me, and I am told they never will. I am 58, he is 63, and neither of us is in the best of health. I was due to have an operation on my spine two years ago when I was diagnosed with breast cancer, so I have been living with tremendous back pain for the past two years as the cancer had to be treated as priority. I have no family at all — no brothers or sisters or children — except for a 91-year-old mom with Alzheimer’s in a care home, and I am quite honestly scared to be alone again, which I know sounds awful. I have been single most of my life and emotionally and financially independent, but not sure I can face being alone again at my age and in pain with no support.
My boyfriend and I do love each other – he tells me all the time, as do I tell him – and my friends say he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. But should I stay with him knowing things will never change in regards to his family — we will never be married, and things will just carry on the same? — Kept a Secret From His Family
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