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In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
My boyfriend and I are in out late twenties and have been together for almost three years and it hasn’t always been smooth. About a year into our relationship my boyfriend and I were going though the toughest patch ever and a part of me thought it was over. During that time I reconnected with an old coworker over Facebook. I struck up a little internet flirting while my boyfriend and I were taking space to think things through. I never met with my old co-worker in person and nothing physical has ever happened, past or present. Since I stayed in my relationship, I no longer talk to the former co-worker although I haven’t un-friended him.
I have had a bit of guilt over the last couple years, and now that my boyfriend and I are talking about moving in together, I feel like I owe him the truth. I know nothing good will come from it, as my boyfriend has trust issues and telling him what I did might cause me to lose him. At the same time I feel like a horrible person. Please help. — Words Can Damage Too