The problem is that nearly all my friends and family are on the East Coast, and I miss them dearly. In addition, I’m extremely close to my 93-year-old grandmother and I want to make the most of the time she has left. My boyfriend is willing to move back East with me when he completes his residency, but at that point he will be matching for fellowships and there’s no guarantee where he’ll be sent.
Unfortunately, I’ve been having a hard time adapting to our new town. I’ve made new friends but they pale in comparison to my old buddies whom I miss. The weather here is rather intense – a typical winter can go down to -40 (very freaking cold). I have found a job but it isn’t a huge source of satisfaction as I am working below my qualifications until something better comes up.
I find myself feeling very melancholy and depressed, despite my boyfriend’s best efforts. He really is the most wonderful guy, but I find myself wanting to settle down with him in a few years without having to suffer through so much heartache now. I plan on sticking it out, but my boyfriend is the only reason for me to stay here and it puts a lot of pressure on him to be my all and everything. I go out with new friends, I joined a sports team, and I try to stay busy and engaged with he community but I am so, so sad.
Should I try long distance? Should I find a way to suck it up? Should we get married so that I don’t worry that living here will be a mistake in my life and I’m wasting time with a guy that’s not set-in-legal-stone “for sure”? I agonize over this daily, and just want to feel happy – I’m young, and the world is my oyster. I have no kids and few student loans. I want to BE HAPPY! — So, so Sad
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