In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
He makes me feel so good when I’m with him and he flirts with me all the time. We sleep in the same bed as well and cuddle at night. That is the time of day I look forward to the most — when he holds me. He’s the one I think about whenever I listen to sad songs. I’ve cried so many times because he “gets with” other people. I get upset but I don’t think I can really be that upset because he doesn’t know how I still feel about him.
I broke up with him because I was afraid he would leave me when I got close to him. That’s my defense mechanism in relationships, I guess. I know now in my heart though that I would be sooo happy to be back with him. Although another thought has popped into my head: what if I’m just jealous or I’m just lusting for him? I don’t believe it’s those things but it could be a possibility. But I’m starting to get so depressed because I can’t stop thinking about him.
Should I tell him how I feel? Should I keep it to myself for sake of the living situation and because I don’t have a place to go? Should I wait it out? Any advice you could give me would be so much appreciated!