In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
His excuse is always: “I am stressed from work” or “I am tired.” Enough with the excuses, already. Every time I want a hug or kiss or something he acts like it’s this huge problem for him to do it and he huffs and puffs. I feel like he only says “I love you” because it’s routine. I don’t know what to do. I just don’t know who he is anymore or how to fix it because me being open and honest about it always turns into this HUGE fight. He always says that we don’t need to be lovey dovey and make out and stuff because we are married and out of that stage of our relationship now.
I miss so much of what we used to have — the flirting, kissing, hugging, etc. I am just so miserable. What do I do to try and fix it? — Miserable in Hawaii