He said he wants to buy a house for us to move into together. He will be buying it all by himself, and I will be contributing monthly when I move in. I also have a solid tenant for my condo. My name will not be on the mortgage, and I am not investing any money with him. Properties that meet all of his requirements (specifically over one acre of land and that he can also afford) are all located over forty miles away from my work. This would make a three-hour daily commute for me. He sees it as no big deal, but this commute is a deal-breaker for me. He won’t budge on the land or space. My work has amazing benefits and flexibility that I don’t want to give up. I have to stay there at least until I finish grad school. Then I said I would look for another job, which I really don’t want to do.
He is trying to find properties closer, but everything is too expensive. I also offered to stay where I am until I get a job closer, but he just gets mad at me. He says that he wants me to be happy and doesn’t want me to move out of the house if I hate it. He won’t compromise on the land or space at all. I feel like I don’t have much say because he is paying for the house, but at the same time I feel very bitter because I will be the one commuting eighty miles a day, living sixty miles away from my parents and friends. I am also giving up beach living that I absolutely love. Waterfront location is the main reason I bought my condo. And overall I feel upset that he won’t compromise. — Looking For a Compromise
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