Today’s post comes from Sabrina Jackson who owns Free Dating Sites where she focuses on educating online singles about safe dating on the net.
Social networks like Facebook have given us the opportunity to post photos of our weekend escapades, tell our former high school acquaintances what we ate for lunch and post inside jokes on our best friends’ walls. But because Facebook also gives us the ability to share with all the World Wide Web that we are “in a relationship,” it can turn to “it’s complicated” fast. If you want to maintain a healthy relationship, DON’T commit these following Facebook crimes:
1. Defining the relationship without a discussion first. Sure, you’ve been dating for a few weeks and everything is hearts and butterflies, however, one mistake that we modern women often make is the one of rushing into publicly announcing that our men are taken, which can easily freak guys out. So before you define your relationship online, make sure that it is first defined offline and you both are on the same page about sharing the relationship with the other 800 million users of Facebook.
2. Stalking/snooping on your significant other. Do you spend evenings taking notes from CSI reruns and have a special knack for detecting keystrokes from across a room? Or is your guy just not smart enough to come up with a Facebook password better than “password123”? Well, even if you were meant to be a private detective, your skills have no place in your relationship. There’s nothing wrong with a light background check of photos and wall posts, but don’t EVER request (or hack) his password. When you obsessively monitor his Facebook (with or without his knowledge) you are doing nothing but demonstrating your unwillingness to trust him. If your man has never given you a reason not to trust him in the past, then you owe it to him (and your sanity) to give him the respect and privacy he deserves. Nothing is more attractive to a guy than a confident woman, so tone down the jealousy, show him that you are confident in your relationship and don’t check up on him to monitor his fidelity.
3. Oversharing. Facebook was created as a means to bring people together for sharing, right? But we all know that there are some people who take to Facebook with reckless abandon and zero regard for the gag reflexes of their friends. Don’t be one of these people when it comes to sharing your relationship. Sure, you may think the kissy pictures are cute, the love letter of a wall-post you wrote him would put William Shakespeare to shame and the arguments you have totally warrant the posting of a dramatic status update every now and then, but think before you hit ‘enter.’ When you disclose too many details of your relationship on Facebook, you will make it easier for people to criticize and judge your relationship. Keep some stuff just between the two of you and your relationship is sure to be much more special.
* Sabrina Jackson is a guest post contributor who enjoys writing about modern dating and relationships. In addition, Sabrina also owns Free Dating Sites where she focuses on educating online singles about safe dating on the net.