Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

What are you all up to this weekend? It’s a rare weekend for us that we don’t have a whole lot planned, but this afternoon, rain or shine, Drew will be defending his title (for the fourth year) at the annual strawberry shortcake eating contest at our local farmers’ market, and we’re all very excited about that.

Tomorrow is supposed to be sunny and hot here — a perfect day for a fundraiser lemonade stand – and I’m thinking about hosting one with the kids in support of the migrant children separated from their families (if you’d like to do something similar, here’s how), but I am struggling with how to explain to them what the fundraiser is for in a way that doesn’t scare them. Maybe I’ll just say it’s for families less fortunate than ours? Let me know if you have suggestions…

In the meantime, have a wonderful weekend!

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    JD June 23, 2018, 8:17 am

    There’s an autism fundraiser run going right past our house early this am so we are up bright and early to the sound of cheers and music. Glad I stopped after two glasses of wine last night or my head would be very angry right now.

    My stupid leg is acting up and I’m limping in pain so looks like by default it’ll be a low key weekend. I wanted to go for a run today since the weather has cooled down (last week almost 100 all weeka and this week non stop rain but it’s clear now and cool).

    I was run over about 20 years ago and broke my femur. Still have days when it acts up badly. Frustrating and there really is nothing that can ever be done minus some stretching and such. Truly if we knew then that 20 years later I’d still need medical care and days off I’d have pursued the lawsuit further. The guy was impatient and didn’t want to wait for traffic so he made a very illegal manuver that caused me to be hit, then yelled at the cops that he was late while I lied near death in the road. Jackass. His insurance paid out and rates went up for a while but 20 years later I still have to deal with it. I truly become enraged watching asshole drivers to this day. Rant done. Sorry.

    Hubby is grilling some chicken tonight. Kid just left for a month to see his mom so it’s no pants in my house rule for a while…and many long baths as our only tub is in his bathroom. I don’t know if anyone has ever used a 15 year old boys bathroom but let’s just say it was scrubbed down after he left. Missing my giant tub back in CA.

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      carolann June 23, 2018, 3:40 pm

      I hear ya times…I was in a motorcycle accident when I was 4. (yes,4) We got hit and I broke my leg in 3 places and had all the tendons ripped out of my foot. They told my dad I might never walk again. Of course I can, but I was in a wheelchair for a long time. Many operations. So that was over 40 years ago and I still have pain. (There was a very large settlement, but I never saw any of it) I am still motorcycle phobic, too bad I married a former motorcycle racer. He gave it up for me. I just couldn’t take the anxiety it gave me. Besides my accident I have known too many other people that died.

      Then about 16 years ago I was hit head on and messed up my neck. I also regret settling way too easily.

      I could not live without a tub. If our master had a shower and another room had a bath, one of the kids would be chillin in the master bedroom. We have boys and girls bathrooms and when it starts smelling like a cat box I hand my son a spray bottle of doctor bronners, a rag and a scrub brush. There is always something he wants from me, so we make deals.

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        JD June 23, 2018, 3:54 pm

        Ya no tub is not an option but I for sure under estimated my desire to clean his gross ness. I was a daily bath taker. He cleans it but it’s like asking him to stab him self is his mind so it’s not done to my standards. I go in every few weeks and do a deeper clean.

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        JD June 23, 2018, 3:56 pm

        Ops hit send. We got a settlement from my accident but it wasn’t much, a reasonably priced car for me going to college and in state tuition (which is amazing but not insane) because they told us we’d be tied up in court for years and that already took 5 years to get. Knowing what I know now is for sure have continued as my medical bills still continue and will for life. I’ll need new hips and knees for sure, probably need one now truly.

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    keyblade June 23, 2018, 9:01 am

    My kids want to make a lemonade stand so perhaps we will. I want to catch up on chores around here. We’ve been invited to see the Incredibles, so we may end up doing that, or I may end up sending them out with their dad.

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    Kate June 23, 2018, 9:07 am

    I just want to die right now. Work is the biggest shitshow I’ve ever seen in 18 years of working at companies. I think my one boss has something like early-onset dementia, and also isn’t honest, and the other one cannot get shit done on deadline so we look bad in front of the client. I’ve been feeling sick for a while. I know, time to move on.

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      JD June 23, 2018, 10:11 am

      Ugh sorry to hear that. Sounds exhausting. Hopefully you can have a relaxing weekend.

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        Kate June 23, 2018, 10:21 am

        Thanks, well, I walked down the street and got a 1/2-hour deep tissue back massage where she dig into that area between the shoulder blades where most of my tension is. Then I got a bagel and cold brew coffee at Breuggers, and the guy was like, “cold brew with vodka, ok, that’s $7,” which was funny. I must look like…that. I’m trying one of those powder manicures next. But there’s still a shit-ton of work we have to do this weekend to get out of this jizzaster. I already did a couple hours this morning, mostly stuff a junior analyst should do, but we’re deeply F’d.

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        JD June 23, 2018, 11:09 am

        I once walked into Starbucks after a “fun” night out and ordered a “kettle, soda with lime”. He just stared at me until I caught on and instead ordered coffee. 😂

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      Keyblade June 23, 2018, 9:40 pm

      Hope it turned around for you.

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      MaterialsGirl June 25, 2018, 9:54 am

      Good luck kate..

      mmmmm Brueggers. I worked there in high school and some breaks home from college. Now I’m super hungry for a rosemary olive oil bagel

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    anonymousse June 23, 2018, 11:56 am

    I’ve been cleaning and trying to relax. We are hosting a giant birthday party tomorrow! I’m expecting about 40 adults and 20 kids. It’s crazy.

    I started at home derma-rolling a week ago. I can see an immediate difference in my face. I didn’t have too many concerns just a little hyper-pigmentation, dark circles, fine lines and after two rolls I can see positive results.

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      Keyblade June 23, 2018, 9:37 pm

      I’ve never tried rolling. Good luck with the party. Are you doing a theme or games? A lot of times I get lazy and hold them in a park. What flavor cake?

      Next week My second wants a My Little Pony party next weekend but I’m hoping to go to a rally for what’s been happening. I’m tempted to invite guests to go to the Protest and then have lunch afterwards. Too weird?

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        anonymousse June 24, 2018, 7:38 am

        No theme. It’s the first time a lot of our friends and family in a group this big will be together since our tragedy last fall. It’s just a summer BBQ. Slip n slide, corn hole, giant jenga, all the summer things. Our place backs up against a big field with a playground and hopefully it doesn’t rain. Chocolate cake!
        Yeah, that might be a little weird to do the protest. Too emotional for a party. Maybe with certain people it could work.

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      keyblade June 24, 2018, 9:37 am

      Those are my favorite kind of parties! Our good friends have a fire pit and always throw summer BBQs and it’s always the best (except she doesn’t like chocolate so any chocolate cake for a birthday is going to be store-bought which is fine, but the desserts she makes are amazing.)

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        ron June 24, 2018, 9:53 am

        Not liking chocolate? That’s like a hole in the soul and the removal of the best feel-good snack ever. Maybe she only knows that awful milk chocolate or white chocolate.

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        keyblade June 24, 2018, 10:02 am

        Oh she loves white chocolate. In the winter, I try to make white peppermint hot chocolate for her once a year. I think it’s a taste bud thing. I’ve noticed she doesn’t care for too many spices or too much heat on food. Her husband is the opposite. I think she might just be averse to the savery/sweet combo.

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        anonymousse June 25, 2018, 10:07 am

        That’s so strange to me. White chocolate isn’t really even chocolate! I love chocolate. I tend to prefer savory to sweet, I make an exception for chocolate. Chocolate + saltiness is definitely one of my favorite flavor combinations.

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        keyblade June 25, 2018, 10:16 pm

        I love chocolate, I made sure our wedding cake was chocolate and I completely concur on liberal seasalt.

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      anonymousse June 25, 2018, 10:02 am

      Whew! The party is over. We had more kids than I anticipated and our slip n slide created a giant mud pit in our field. I hope I don’t get in trouble with the HOA. Oops!

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        keyblade June 25, 2018, 10:14 pm

        Sounds awesome.

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    Lianne June 23, 2018, 7:32 pm

    Since we’re bitching….

    We still haven’t found a house and it’s becoming harder and harder to not see flaws in everything that comes on the market.

    Settling my mother’s affairs is extremely stressful and full of crazy drama which has resulted in the need to hire a lawyer. I can’t say much else but suffice it to say, I feel like I’m losing my mind with the turn my life has taken in the last 7 months. I am calling a therapist on Monday as I think I will lose my mind otherwise.

    I’m actually excited to go back to work in 3 weeks to take my mind off this shit.

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      Lianne June 23, 2018, 7:33 pm

      Evidence of losing my mind is saying lose my mind twice in the same paragraph 😂

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      Keyblade June 23, 2018, 9:39 pm

      Sorry to hear about the stress. Hope something good shows up son.

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        keyblade June 24, 2018, 9:18 am

        I meant soon. My phone comments stink. I want to get a new computer because my Mac is shot and I have fairly large finger tips. That along with auto-correct means I need to proof-read and edit every single dumb thought I post. Or I could just stop posting my reactions to everything but that’s probably not going to happen.

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      Dear Wendy June 24, 2018, 5:36 am

      I’m sorry, Lianne. I can relate a little bit. It took over a year – I think close to 18 months to settle my FIL’s estate after he passed away in late 2015. No lawyers were necessary and there was no drama, but even without that it was a long and draining process (mostly for drew and his brother; I was just a support person). Also, it took us two years to find a place to buy, and we were very actively looking that entire period. And during that time, we were dealing with some unique parenting challenges (and had a baby like you do). I really did think I was losing my mind. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that that’s when I developed alopecia.

      That said, we survived and everything is now better across the board. Hang in there!!

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      anonymousse June 24, 2018, 7:40 am

      I’m sorry, Lianne. That must be so hard. Therapy is a good start. It’s so hard to work through anything when you have additional stress and little sleep. ❤️

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