Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Actions We Can Take To Make a Difference

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It’s real: Trump won the election and he is our president-elect. He is already implementing his platform of hate by appointing a known antisemetic misogynist (who refers to liberal women as “a bunch of dykes”) as his chief advisor. The KKK and the American Nazi party are thrilled! But we can fight this appointment! “Presidents have had to back down before, for comparatively minor reasons. (Some of us are old enough to remember Zoe Baird and Kimba Wood, Bill Clinton’s two AG appointments, who had to withdraw for failing to pay Social Security taxes.)” Here, borrowed from a post I saw floating around online (where the quoted lines above are also from), are some concrete steps to #StopBannon, as well other actions we can take to make a difference during this insanity:

1) If you live in the US, call your Representatives and Senators and tell them this is unacceptable.
2) Paul Ryan is feigning ignorance again. Call his office at (202) 225-3031 and let him know that this is not ok. Same with Majority Leader McConnell, (202) 224-2541.
3) Call out the media when they report the Bannon appointment as a straight news story or refer to him as a “Breitbart executive” or a “provocateur,” but don’t call him what he is: a white supremacist, anti-semite, misogynist. Don’t let them normalize.
4) Where protests are ongoing, make this the focus, with signs, chants, etc. Next week we can turn our attention to other things. But for now let’s focus like a laser on this.
5) Let’s get religious groups on board; maybe even mainstream business groups, like the Chamber of Commerce (202-659-6000).
6) Contact other people of influence–College presidents, high-profile coaches and anyone else who has a public megaphone.
We can do this. #stopbannon

Find phone numbers for your Senators here.
Find phone numbers for your House Representatives here.

Here’s a sample script for when you call: “Hello, my name is [your name]. I am a constituent, living in [address, district]. I am horrified at the news of Trump appointing Steve Bannon, a white supremacist, as one of his closest advisors. Please publicly condemn this appointment.”

There are a bunch of petitions making the rounds. Here are a few I’ve signed that I think are especially important:


Electoral College: Make Hillary Clinton President on December 19

Petition to provide Trump’s tax returns and supporting documents on potential conflicts of interest to the Electoral College before they vote on December 19th.

Petition to End the Electoral College

Appoint Garland Now (Senate Has Waived Its Rights)

Petition to make Bernie Sanders the Senate minority leader.

Support Bernie-Approved Keith Ellison for DNC Chair

Created by a FB friend of mine, here is a list of organizations and causes worthy of your support (time and money and promotion). I’ve set up automatic monthly donations to a couple of these and encourage you to do the same if you can:

American Civil Liberties Union – The ACLU works in the courts, legislatures and communities to defend and preserve the individual rights and liberties guaranteed to all people in this country by the Constitution and laws of the United States. You can donate, become a member, or get involved with specific causes. I recommend checking it out.

The Anti-Defamation League – The Anti-Defamation League was founded in 1913 “to stop the defamation of the Jewish people and to secure justice and fair treatment to all.” Now the nation’s premier civil rights/human relations agency, ADL fights anti-Semitism and all forms of bigotry, defends democratic ideals and protects civil rights for all.

Center for Reproductive Rights – For more than 20 years, the Center for Reproductive Rights has used the law to advance reproductive freedom as a fundamental human right that all governments are legally obligated to protect, respect, and fulfill.

Common Cause – Common Cause is a nonpartisan grassroots organization dedicated to upholding the core values of American democracy. We work to create open, honest, and accountable government that serves the public interest; promote equal rights, opportunity, and representation for all; and empower all people to make their voices heard in the political process. You can donate, easily find and contact your elected officials, etc…

Council on American-Islamic Relations – CAIR’s mission is to enhance understanding of Islam, encourage dialogue, protect civil liberties, empower American Muslims, and build coalitions that promote justice and mutual understanding. You can donate, report an incident, subscribe to their newsletter, volunteer, etc…

Crime Victims Treatment Center – The Crime Victims Treatment Center of Mount Sinai West and St. Luke’s Hospitals has been helping survivors of interpersonal violence heal since 1977. Our support comes in the forms of crisis intervention, individual and group trauma-focused therapy, legal advocacy, complementary therapy and psychiatric consultation. FairVote – – FairVote is a non-partisan, 501(c)(3)h non-profit organization that seeks to make democracy fair, functional, and more representative. You can donate, become an advocate, etc…

Friends of the Earth – Friends of the Earth strives for a more healthy and just world. You can donate, become a member, provide gift & estate planning, give gifts of stock, etc…

The Future Project – Over 50 million students across the country are at risk of never discovering their full potential. Join the movement to inspire young people everywhere to build the future we all imagine. We work with schools to unlock the limitless potential of every young person in this country. You can donate, join the newsletter, etc…

Human Rights Campaign – HRC envisions a world where lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer people are embraced as full members of society at home, at work and in every community. You can donate or become a member. I recommend you browsing their massive and excellent site to become more educated on the LGBTQ communities.

International Refugee Assistance Project – The International Refugee Assistance Project (IRAP) organizes law students and lawyers to develop and enforce a set of legal and human rights for refugees and displaced persons. Mobilizing direct legal aid and systemic policy advocacy, IRAP serves the world’s most persecuted individuals and empowers the next generation of human rights leaders.

International Rescue Committee – The International Rescue Committee whose lives and livelihoods are shattered by conflict and disaster to survive, recover, and regain control of their future.

Justice for Vets – Veterans fought for our freedom, now it’s our turn to fight for theirs. We enable the creation of a nationwide network of Veterans Treatment Courts that is transforming the way veterans are handled in the criminal justice system. In doing so we will keep veterans out of jail and prison; saving their lives, their families, and their futures, while saving tax dollars for the American public.

Mexican American Legal Defense and Educational Fund – Often described as the “law firm of the Latino community”, MALDEF promotes social change through advocacy, communications, community education, and litigation in the areas of education, employment, immigrant rights, and political access.

ModestNeeds.Org – Modest Needs offers grants designed to promote the self-sufficiency of individuals and families who, because they are working and live just above the poverty level, are ineligible for most types of conventional social assistance but who, all the same, are living one or two lost paychecks away from the kind of financial catastrophe that eventually leads to homelessness.

National Association for the Advancement of Colored People – The mission of the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People (NAACP) is to ensure the political, educational, social, and economic equality of rights of all persons and to eliminate race-based discrimination. You can donate, become a member, etc…

NAACP Legal Defense Fund – The NAACP Legal Defense and Educational Fund, Inc. is America’s premier legal organization fighting for racial justice.

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence – The vision of NCADV is to create a culture where domestic violence is not tolerated; and where society empowers victims and survivors, and holds abusers accountable. You can donate, become a member, volunteer, etc…

National Network for Immigrant and Refugee Rights – The National Network for Immigrant and Refugee Rights (NNIRR) works to defend and expand the rights of all immigrants and refugees, regardless of immigration status. You be involved with campaigns, volunteer, become a member, become a intern, etc…

National Organization for Women — They have been working hard for years (since 1966) for women’s reproductive rights.

Natural Resources Defense Council – We combine the power of more than two million members and online activists with the expertise of some 500 scientists, lawyers, and policy advocates across the globe to ensure the rights of all people to the air, the water, and the wild.

Operation HOPE – The mission of Operation HOPE, Inc. (HOPE) is silver rights empowerment, making free enterprise work for everyone.

Planned Parenthood – Planned Parenthood was founded on the revolutionary idea that women should have the information and care they need to live strong, healthy lives and fulfill their dreams — no ceilings, no limits. You can do a one-off donation, a monthly donation, or get involved through their Action Fund. ProPublica – – ProPublica is an independent, non-profit newsroom that produces investigative journalism in the public interest.

RAINN – RAINN created and operates the National Sexual Assault Hotline (800.656.HOPE, y in partnership with more than 1,000 local sexual assault service providers across the country and operates the DoD Safe Helpline for the Department of Defense. You can donate, volunteer for the hotline, become a student activist, and be a part of their social media action center.

Southern Poverty Law Center – The Southern Poverty Law Center is dedicated to fighting hate and bigotry and to seeking justice for the most vulnerable members of our society. Using litigation, education, and other forms of advocacy, the SPLC works toward the day when the ideals of equal justice and equal opportunity will be a reality. You can donate, flag hate groups, etc…

The Trevor Project – The Trevor Project is the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) young people ages 13-24.

United SIKHS – UNITED SIKHS is a U.N. affiliated, international non-profit, non-governmental, humanitarian relief, human development and advocacy organization, aimed at empowering those in need, especially disadvantaged and minority communities across the world. You can donate, volunteer, etc…

United Way – United Way advances the common good by creating opportunities for all. Our focus is on education, income and health—the building blocks for a good quality of life and a strong community. You can donate, setup a workplace campaign, volunteer, etc…

And from, a big list of actions you can take right now to make a difference and elicit change and progress.

#StrongerTogether #WeCanMakeADifference

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    bittergaymark November 16, 2016, 1:55 pm

    Thanks for posting this! EVERYBODY!
    We ALL need to get and/or STAY INVOLVED!!

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    Just Max November 16, 2016, 2:15 pm

    Wendy, thank you for this post.
    After dealing with last week’s roller coaster, I am finally coming out of the anxiety and despair to find ways to take action. This is the perfect post to get started.

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  • Kate November 16, 2016, 2:42 pm

    I called my congresswoman just now and was assured by the employee that answered the phone that she’s already making strong condemnations about the Bannon appointment publicly. Same with Senator Markey, who some hot guy outside the supermarket talked to me about years ago and I supported his campaign. These are democrats though, so I imagine it’s better to call Republicans, since the dems must already all be speaking out.

    I was already on a donation and petition spree, but I’ll sign a couple more now.


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  • Kate November 16, 2016, 2:45 pm

    Left a message for Ryan too.

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  • Kate November 16, 2016, 3:06 pm

    Worth noting: the guy who answered the phone for my congresswoman asked for my name, address, email, etc., saying it would be helpful to their efforts.

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  • SpaceySteph November 16, 2016, 3:12 pm

    This is a fabulous list for me to give the people who ask for my wish list this holiday season. Well that plus some faithless electors and peace on earth, but I’m not holding out hope for the other two.

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  • Vathena November 16, 2016, 3:59 pm

    Thank you, Wendy. It’s so overwhelming it’s been hard to know where to start. Already took some action steps on Bannon (all kinds of WTF there). I’m bookmarking this page. Also, for those receiving an unneeded tax cut under the GOP plan, consider donating those extra dollars to some of these causes, or to Democratic candidates for the 2018 elections (which my husband and I intend to do).

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    • girltuesday November 16, 2016, 4:06 pm

      I am so floored about the Bannon appointment. He literally is trusting an Internet Troll to be part of his inside circle. Just WTF.

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        othy November 16, 2016, 5:07 pm

        But Trump is the embodiment of the comments section of most internet sites. Does this honestly surprise you?

    • Kate November 16, 2016, 4:13 pm

      Have you seen his tax plan yet? If you’re a HH making $30-$39K, your tax rate actually goes UP (10% to 12%). The households that save something significant are those making under $30K (ok, good, but it’s not like they’re then going to have this extra pocket money to spend on consumer goods and boost the economy), and those making $96K – $105K. You also randomly get a big break if you make $252,150 to $255K OR over $487K. The people who need it the most, which I would say are those making between $30K and $100K, aren’t seeing much of a break under the new plan.

      Single filers in many cases are going to pay more in taxes. The whole thing looks so random and weird.

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  • girltuesday November 16, 2016, 4:00 pm

    Here here! Oh, and don’t forget to donate to PP under Mike Pence’s name. 🙂

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  • girltuesday November 16, 2016, 4:05 pm

    I am also so glad I live in Very Liberal Blue State which has already condemned some of the things going on. I’m happy to help on a more national level, though. Our brothers and sisters in the deep south/Mid-West, etc. really need us.

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  • theotherbarb November 16, 2016, 4:37 pm

    Please add the National Organization for Women . They have been working hard for years (since 1966) for women’s reproductive rights.
    Also: take a look at Eugene Robinson’s column of a couple days ago:
    Of course, the right is condemning this article without having read it. (Our Sacramento paper headlined the article I Wish President Trump Failure, which was slightly more misleading – but the article makes things perfectly clear exactly what ER is wishing DT fails at.)

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  • ktfran November 16, 2016, 5:19 pm

    THANK YOU for this post Wendy!

    I’m by no means a political person and often have a hard time talking about it. The last few years have been different though.

    With that being said, I wanted to call my state rep, and maybe Ryan too, but had no idea what to say when I called. My coworker sent me this…

    It might help any of you who are in the same boat I am.

    Also, I’ve greatly appreciated this site during this election. I mean, I always do. But it has been a place of comfort the last week.

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  • Kate November 16, 2016, 6:59 pm

    Mitch McConnell doesn’t answer the f’in phone. No voicemail. He said he wants nothing to do with this.

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  • Jen November 16, 2016, 7:18 pm

    For all of you socially awkward people, you can also email your reps BTW. Most senators and congress people have forms on their website. Also I’ve always wondered, what’s stopping people from emailing or calling and *pretending* to be a constituent, say with a fake name and email?

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      Portia November 17, 2016, 12:47 pm

      I thought this was really helpful – a former congressional staffer walked through the best ways to get your congressperson’s staff’s ear: (there’s a bunch of other articles about her tweets, this is just one I found)

      The tl;dr is phone call at their district/state office is the best, [then call to DC office maybe?] then letter to their district/state office, then email or letter to their DC office. She says social media is “largely ineffective.”

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      • ktfran November 17, 2016, 12:53 pm

        Yep. I read the same article. I was going to e-mail or write a letter, but after reading that decided calling was the most effective option. That’s why I looked for a “script.”

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        Portia November 17, 2016, 1:00 pm

        Totally, a script is great! It’s in times like these that I wish I lived in a state (or that DC was a state) so that I’d have reps/senators to call. I’ll certainly be contacting party leadership, though.

  • csp November 17, 2016, 6:47 am

    One other option for the Electoral college is to see about getting your state to split its EC votes. For example, instead of winner take all states, some votes could be red and some blue. It is more democratic that way and some states have already done this.

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    • Ron November 18, 2016, 6:37 pm

      Trump’s win would be even bigger if this were done. The reason that Trump has more electoral votes but fewer popular votes is not because state EC votes aren’t split. It’s because a lot of the small red states with the minimum 3 electoral votes add up and a vote in a small state is worth more electoral votes than a vote in a big state.

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  • Kate November 17, 2016, 10:50 am

    Awww shit! Paul Ryan’s vm box is full! I just had my husband call. I had been able to leave a message yesterday but today it’s not taking new messages. That’s probably good?

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  • Kate November 17, 2016, 11:29 am

    More people voted for Hillary tho.

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    • Kate November 17, 2016, 11:49 am

      And in all seriousness, PT, those people are deeply opposed to DT appointing known white supremacists, anti-semites, and other bigots as his closest advisors. And they’re justified in reaching out to elected officials in protest. This is all a part of democracy. What is it about this that you’re not ok with?

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    • greenapples November 17, 2016, 8:45 pm

      ‘tho’. lolz Trump won. DEAL with it. 🙂

      ps. I voted for him. So did my whole family……coworkers…..friends…so whatevs to your ‘more people’. What you mean was ‘more liberal people’, tho. Yeah…it looks stupid when I type it too. ;*)

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        Dear Wendy November 17, 2016, 9:21 pm

        We ARE dealing with it, which is what this whole post is about.

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        Dear Wendy November 18, 2016, 12:13 pm

        I’m curious what you think about the appointment of white supremacist steve bannon as chief advisor to trump and the news that Trump is naming Jeff Sessions, another white supremacist, as Attorney General. Jeff Sessions was once deemed “the most racist man in the Senate,” he’s a Confederate flag devotee, and he once joked that his only issue with the KKK is that their drug use. This is all ok to you? We should just “deal” with this? Accept it? Move on? Not worry at all about our friends and neighbors and family who are black, jewish, gay, muslim and will be targets for these creeps?

    • Kate November 17, 2016, 9:01 pm

      Yeah, so you’ve said.

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    • Kate November 17, 2016, 9:06 pm

      And you do look stupid when you type.

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      blobfish November 17, 2016, 9:18 pm

      Greenapples, so far everything you have typed looks stupid. Maybe you represent the typical Trump supporter? Just wondering. Perhaps I am incorrect and you will reply with an intelligent response explaining why you did vote for The Donald– for President of the United States of America, I mean? The statement above was correct, by the way; more people voted for Clinton than for Trump.

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    • Kate November 17, 2016, 9:33 pm

      At this point in time, she has 1.5 million more votes than he does, and they’re still being counted. Many conservatives voted for HRC because they couldn’t in good conscience vote for a guy with no political experience who is on record as a misogynist, xenophobe, is in bed with Russia, thinks climate change is a hoax, and is endorsed by the kkk. But, like Wendy said, we are all dealing with it.

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      Portia November 18, 2016, 1:41 pm

      Do you all know what else is terrifying? That the only Jewish organization to publicly denounce Bannon is the ADL. Not because the others don’t think he’s anti-semitic, but because they’re still hoping to have a voice in the administration and don’t want to ruffle feathers. For some reason the lessons of the Holocaust are lost on them and I for one will not be silent. Here’s a WaPo article about it:

      Guess which Jewish advocacy group will be getting my money this year…

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    • Kate November 18, 2016, 6:14 pm

      So… the “theft and deceit and actions against women” that you believe Hillary is guilty of in spite of how many years and dollars of federal investigation exposing no wrongdoing, are worse for America than revoking the civil rights of everyone who’s not a white man? And speaking of theft and deceit, fact checking shows that most of what Trump says is lies… he also just settled a fraud case, when he’s said in the past that he would never settle a case, ever, if he was right. That’s all cool with you?

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  • csp November 17, 2016, 11:43 am

    An engaged electorate is a good thing. You shouldn’t discourage people contacting their congressman and senators.

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    Portia November 17, 2016, 12:20 pm

    If you’d like to live in a dictatorship, in sure there are plenty of other countries that would like to have you. Those countries suppress dissent, which seems in line with what you’re advocating for, so I’m sure you’d fit right in.

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    Dear Wendy November 17, 2016, 12:22 pm

    I am not a “girl,” I am a 40-year-old woman. And if I were really being “childish,” I can think of a dozen names to call you, but I’ll refrain and simply remind you that if you are tired of reading my content, you can, you know, stop reading it.

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  • Jane November 17, 2016, 2:46 pm

    Thank you so much for posting this! It is so helpful to have a path forward to actually DO something to make a positive difference.

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    blobfish November 17, 2016, 9:50 pm

    Oh Patrick Turner, it is a good thing that Wendy did display your comment on her own site. But Wendy is intelligent, fair, and understanding, so I expect that from her. I, as a reader, welcome some insight into the racist, sexist minds of those who chose Trump. I do not understand your view at all. If you are able, go on with your explanation. My guess is that the intelligence is lacking on your part. And you are not even very cute when you are mad.

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    • Kate November 18, 2016, 6:01 am

      Here’s the thing, I’ve been reading every article I see on legitimate news sources, or that someone sends me, about how Trump won this election. Including reasons why people made their vote for him. Particularly women, because how could you…? Anyway, my mind is pretty open to learning as much as I can, but these trolls hop on here and are just like, hey, I voted for Trump hahahahahaha get over it, and then leave with no explanation. And you figure they’ve been reading the fake news stories since they’re not aware Hillary won the popular vote. I’m pretty sure I know who both these trolls are, anyway, and they’re more interested in rubbing Trump in our faces than making a point. But maybe they’ll yet come back and explain.

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      Dear Wendy November 18, 2016, 7:10 pm

      Oh, you’re so cute. I think, when talking about the higher crime rates of red states vs. blue states, you’re thinking about these fake maps that were circulated in the last few weeks. You’re just precious!

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  • anonymousse November 18, 2016, 12:56 am

    Omg! The trolls! PT…this is the Internet. No one is printing anything. If you don’t like Wendy’s opinion or her site..stop reading it! Don’t let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya!

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  • SpaceySteph November 18, 2016, 9:58 am

    Read a great post today on Pantsuit Nation (closed group so I can’t share) about how ridiculous it is that people who treated Obama like shit (calling him a secret Muslim, questioning his birthplace, calling him “ape” and racial slurs) for *8 years* think we should get over Trump in a matter of weeks. Thanks, but I think I’ll exercise my right to call Trump a 21st century Hitler as long as I fucking want.

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  • Kate November 18, 2016, 12:34 pm

    Do you two also realize that regular upstanding republicans are keeping their distance from the administration-picking reality shitshow? They want nothing to do with those jobs because they know they’d have to compromise their values. Only the extremists and nationalists want or are being appointed to these positions. Does that concern you? Are you aware?

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  • Nico November 18, 2016, 1:13 pm

    So Addie Pray and I are friends on FB, and she posted about wanting a Chicago based charity to donate some money to, and I suggested Rape Victims Advocates. Turns out AP was friends with a board member, who got me in touch with the executive director, and long story short, I am their newest Board Member! PLEASE donate to this amazing charity that does incredible work in Chicago! Feel free to email me: if you would like to get involved or learn more about RVA!

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      Addie Pray November 18, 2016, 3:26 pm

      Oh wow, Nico, that is so cool, and congrats! I met with the ED and did in fact donate the money there!

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    Addie Pray November 18, 2016, 3:30 pm

    People who read this and voted for Trump – a few of you admitted that you did. But none of you followed up about. I’m really curious, what was the thing that convinced you? I mean, there are lots of things. Things here, things that. Things that are more important than other things. No one likes all the things. But we prioritize things. And we vote for those things, over other things because of such prioritization. So, what was the thing that was important to you? I’m genuinely curious. Because I am having a hard time wrapping my brain – my sometimes pea brain – around what could possible be a thing that is more important than things like civil rights. So, tell me the things!!

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      MaterialsGirl November 18, 2016, 4:47 pm

      I have been traveling for work and i’ve been surrounded by people who voted for trump. I just.. i just can’t believe it! My colleagues and other people i respected too! all of them say that yes, of course he’s a scum bag, but hilary was a liar and neither party gave us a good choice (which i agree is true). HOWEVER, the only reason that i can come up with as to why they voted for trump is because it was their wallets. They were all white males so who the heck is gonna take away any of their freedoms? That leaves their biggest concern to be jobs/money/economy in this particular industry. The rest of us who have faced discrimination: main priority was ENDING discrimination or at least not making it any worse.

      The other people that voted for Trump. i dunno. i’ve seen some evangelicals vote for him and i can’t logically explain that one either

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      • ktfran November 18, 2016, 5:14 pm

        I know that’s why my wealthy, retired aunt voted for Trump. It was with her wallet. Yes, she’s a woman. But she’s now so far removed from what many women face on a daily basis.

        It’s weird though, because growing up, she and my mom came from lower middle class. But they also came from a small Midwest town located in the middle of nowhere.

        I truly, truly do not understand.

  • Kate November 18, 2016, 6:17 pm

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