I also have reservations about some of the typical games associated with baby showers (aka, sniff the diaper to guess the candy inside, drink as fast as you can from a baby bottle, etc.). I love games, but I just don’t want anything gross. When the time comes for my mother/friend/sister to throw my shower, is it totally tacky to make these requests to her? I never want to be someone who stomps all over someone’s efforts to be kind, but I also am the type of person who definitely knows what I do and don’t like. Should I keep my mouth shut entirely, or do I have a say? — Politely Picky
You know, something tells me that your mother/friend/sister whom you assume will throw you a baby shower is probably well-aware of what a “politely picky” person you are and may actually ask you if you have any preferences or opinions about said shower. If you are asked, then by all means suggest the diaper raffle game and let it be known you don’t want anyone drinking quickly from a bottle or smelling any candy. If you are not asked, I’d suggest keeping your mouth shut, being a gracious guest of honor, and saving your ideas for when YOU are a host of a party. I’d also suggest transferring some of your focus from the baby shower that is likely months away to enjoying some of the final weeks and months of freedom. Go to lots of movies! Go out to nice dinners! Spend time with friends! Take a few trips — even just some weekend getaways will be more than you’ll be able to easily manage once the baby is here.
This is such an exciting time, and it’s easy to get swept up in the anticipation and even feel overwhelmed by how much your life is about to change. But focusing on making a party perfect that you aren’t even hosting — a party that NO ONE has even volunteered yet to host — probably isn’t the best use of your time or energy (two things that are about to be hugely compromised, so enjoy them while you can!).
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