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Last week, after some time of silence, she invited me out to happy hour today and told me, out of the blue, that she is getting a divorce but was not heartbroken about it. Is she giving me signals that she is interested in something? We are both very busy professionals, with little time for fun things. My marriage has lost its sex life for similar reasons, and I could really use some fun. How do I check out if we are on the same level and how do I make it work, while keeping it strictly physical and discrete? — Looking for Fun
It’s naive to think that going to a gala with a co-worker as a date when both of you are married is totally innocent — almost as innocent as thinking you could have some “strictly physical” and “discrete” fun with a co-worker, when one of you is married and the other is getting divorced, and not have it blow up in your face disastrously. The quick answer to your question is that your co-worker is most definitely giving you signals that she’s interested in “something” with you. The longer answer is that you’d be an absolute fool to return the signals and act on them.
If your marriage is lacking sex and fun because you work so damn much, here’s a crazy idea: make your marriage a bigger priority than work. If you’re looking for someone to have fun with, here’s a thought: start with your wife before hitting up the woman at work. If you don’t, it won’t just be your marriage you fuck up.
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