When you married, your husband was in the military, so surely you anticipated leaving Florida at some point and probably moving around frequently, as is the military way of life. I guess I’m confused why, if you were willing to marry into that, you suddenly think there are only two options for where to live (well, three if you count “somewhere in the middle”): his home town or yours. Actually, there’s a whole world out there. But, if you are set on living near family, then, of course, that really limits your options and you don’t have much choice but for one of you to compromise. Since you’re already in Ohio, I suggest giving it one more year. And then really make an effort to be open to it. What is it about where you are that makes you unhappy? Are you bored? Maybe get a job if you don’t have one. Are you lonely? Try to make some friends. Do you simply not like the area? Take some day trips and explore outside your immediate vicinity. Do you miss your family? Go visit them or ask them to visit.
If your relationship is suffering, you need to communicate with your husband. Talk about why you’re unhappy and what he could do to help you feel better. If you’re living in Ohio to be close to his family, take advantage of that. Enlist some family babysitting so you and your husband can get out on dates and he can show you what it is he loves about Ohio. Tell him he has a year to convince you this is the best place for your family and that, if he doesn’t succeed, you want the chance to convince him that somewhere else would be better. And if you still can’t decide on where to live, then go where the jobs are because, without a job, you’re pretty screwed.
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