Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Can You Handle the Truth?

The first four words I saw were “dependent,” “naive,” “kind” and “outgoing.” Eh.




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  • bethany November 10, 2011, 3:57 pm

    My words were “patient”, “outgoing”, “sweet” and “stubborn”

    I’d say I’m 3 out of 4. Not sure that anyone would ever describe me as sweet, but I have my moments, I guess.

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      bittergaymark November 10, 2011, 6:31 pm

      I saw patient right away, too. Which I think we can all agree on here makes this decidedly inaccurate, eh?

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        bittergaymark November 10, 2011, 6:32 pm

        Oh, and for further proof, the…uh, second word to jump out at me was — wait for it — HAPPY! So, there goes THAT theory…

      • Bethany November 10, 2011, 7:43 pm

        HA! At first I thought patient had to be wrong for me, but then I thought about it, and I can actually be really patient at times/certain situations. I think all those years of working retail in college taught me that!

    • SpaceySteph November 11, 2011, 1:28 am

      I saw the letters for patient too, but my mind also saw the IM at the front. I am definitely IMpatient.
      The second word I saw was elegant though. If any actually elegant person saw how I show up for work with damp hair and no makeup, they would be horrified.

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    AlenaLynn November 10, 2011, 3:57 pm

    What does it mean if one of the first four words I saw was “cud?”

    I’m ruminating on that one.

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  • Samantha November 10, 2011, 3:59 pm

    Peaceful, reserved, naive, insecure…

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  • ReginaRey November 10, 2011, 3:59 pm

    Passionate, Dependent, Witty, and Patient.

    Dependent on what? My vanilla tea? My hairdresser? My paycheck? I don’t have a boyfriend to be overly dependent on! And as for patient…that’s wayyyy wrong. Passionate and witty are pretty close, though.

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  • Tudor Princess November 10, 2011, 4:00 pm

    Elegant, peaceful, reserved, & dependent.

    I’m not sure about elegant. I would like to think so, but I know I can be a huge tomboy so I’m a little hesitant to agree.

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  • Matcha November 10, 2011, 4:05 pm

    “Bogovedra” “thone” and “sweet” 😛

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    • Matcha November 10, 2011, 4:08 pm

      Okay, I’ll actually look for words: Lovely, independent and charismatic. I don’t think I’m particularly charismatic but I’ll take it.

      I also saw “wrestles” but I’m pretty bad at it.

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  • PFG-SCR November 10, 2011, 4:06 pm

    In order: happy, compassionate, outgoing and stubborn.

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    Budj November 10, 2011, 4:10 pm

    dependant, lovely, mental, and witty….

    OK – that makes me sound like jekyll and hyde. Swapping murderous rage for relationship cray-cray, of course. (Don’t date me)

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    • Matcha November 10, 2011, 5:03 pm

      Technically, I think the word was ‘sentimental’ 🙂 I saw ‘rage’ after I picked out my last word, but I realized it was ‘courageous.’

      Maybe that says something about me…

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  • rangerchic November 10, 2011, 4:14 pm

    Sweet, outspoken, charismatic, and peaceful. Well….I can be sweet. I’m only outspoken if the situation calls for it otherwise I am more reserved because I just want everyone to be peaceful! I don’t think I fall into the charismatic category.

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  • honeybeenicki November 10, 2011, 4:16 pm

    Mine were stubborn, peaceful, reserved and independent. I don’t know that I’d agree with peaceful. Or reserved most days.

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  • Eljay November 10, 2011, 4:16 pm

    Lovely, Loyal, Honest, Sweet….4 for 4! LOL!

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      Budj November 10, 2011, 4:17 pm

      I smell a cheater….. (jk)

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      • Eljay November 10, 2011, 4:58 pm

        LOL!!! Ok, crazy was #4 but sweet was so close after!

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    Firegirl32 November 10, 2011, 4:17 pm

    Loyal, insecure, mental and elegant. 3 out of 4 ain’t bad…no one has ever called me elegant. 🙂

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  • Elle November 10, 2011, 4:21 pm

    passionate, elegant, restless (really?), genuine. Afterwards, I saw secure, and only later I noticed the “in” before it. 1.5 out of 4, I guess.

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    ChicagoWoman November 10, 2011, 4:23 pm

    Lazy, compassionate, outgoing, and naive…

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    Tracey November 10, 2011, 4:26 pm

    Happy, patient, genuine, peaceful. Never thought of myself as patient, so seeing that second is kind of cool.

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      Tracey November 10, 2011, 4:28 pm

      I just noticed that “patient” acutally had the “im” prefix on it. See? I’m not patient at all….

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      • ReginaRey November 10, 2011, 6:02 pm

        That explains a lot for me, too! haha.

  • Leigh November 10, 2011, 4:33 pm

    Restless, Sweet, Charismatic, Secure

    I didn’t realize it actually says INsecure until I read another comment, so I’m sticking with secure. Overall, pretty accurate for me, I’d say!

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  • brendapie November 10, 2011, 4:38 pm

    Outgoing, naive, lovely, thoughtful

    I’m so shy and a bit of a recluse, but the rest are spot on!

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  • thyme November 10, 2011, 4:52 pm

    Ugh. The first word I saw was “dramatic.”

    And I’m done. Dramatic people make my stomach turn, and I certainly hope I’m not one of them!

    OK, the next word i saw was “peaceful.” Those two traits are mutually exclusive, no?

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  • Theenemyofmyenemyisagrilledcheesesandwich November 10, 2011, 4:53 pm

    “robs” ???

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  • Kate November 10, 2011, 4:55 pm

    I saw passionate, honest, naive, and lovely – not too bad 🙂

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    Betsy November 10, 2011, 4:58 pm

    elegant, prey, charasmatic, loyal

    prey? yikes!

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  • PamplemousseRose November 10, 2011, 5:06 pm

    charming, lovely, peaceful and prey… apparently I’m being hunted, but by who *insert ominous music*

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  • OneSpiritEternal November 10, 2011, 5:14 pm

    Ooohhh – I like mine! Peaceful, genuine, happy, and patient!

    But then I saw Lazy, and the IM in front of patient. Good thing I saw the other words first! This one is fun!

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  • SGMcG November 10, 2011, 5:17 pm

    1. Secure – I don’t think I’m truly THAT secure, but I am more secure than I was in the past.
    2. Thoughtful – If they mean pedantic, I can see it
    3. Eloquent – I think some people may disagree with that one, I know there are moments that I disagree with it.
    4. Restless – I hope to always be restless in my pursuit for happiness, so I fully agree!

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  • AKchic November 10, 2011, 5:26 pm

    Elegant, Reserved, Genuine and Peaceful.

    Say what?! Genuine I get. The others, not so much.

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    • AKchic November 10, 2011, 8:29 pm

      After looking a second time:

      Lethal, Passionate, Secure, Eloquent.

      Ha ha! Lethal. I can be, considering my history, and many other factors. I’m certainly lethal to zombies, bugs, stray rodents that I catch, and injured birds that I know aren’t going to be rehabilitated. Also to any animal I decide I want in my freezer. And to anyone who happens to break into my home (but they’re idiots, and really, isn’t it just “semi-natural selection”?).

      Passionate? About certain things, I suppose I am.
      Secure? *wiggles around a bit* I suppose I’m pretty sturdy in the physical sense. But otherwise, I’m not sure. I’ll have to ponder a bit.
      Eloquent? Well, I can pontificate, elaborate and elucidate on quite a number of subjects, quite loquaciously – so I suppose that does fit.

      I still think the whole thing is a “flim flam”. You see what you WANT to see more often than not.

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  • katiebird November 10, 2011, 5:32 pm

    loyal was the first one i saw which is definitely one of the first words i use to describe myself

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  • Addie Pray November 10, 2011, 5:42 pm

    The first word I saw was “LATINGO” and I thought, what the fuck is that? A Latino flamingo? I’m looking for the word “STUPID” but I don’t see it, proof this is all hogwash.

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    • Eljay November 11, 2011, 10:49 am

      OMG! I almost spit my coffee this was so damn funny!

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  • kali November 10, 2011, 5:54 pm

    Lazy, genuine, charismatic and lovely. Three out of four maybe…

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  • Britannia November 10, 2011, 6:18 pm

    “Reserved’, “witty”, and “lovely”.

    +5 to my self esteem 😀

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    Just Max November 10, 2011, 6:26 pm

    In order: Patient, Elegant, Understanding, Mental.

    I think something is broken. 😉

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  • Kerrycontrary November 10, 2011, 7:54 pm

    haha eloquent, peaceful, lethargic, restless. possibly true?

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  • Caris November 10, 2011, 8:50 pm

    first word i found: patient…. anyone that knows me will tell you this is NOT true lol… I’m a very Impatient person

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  • Nadine November 10, 2011, 9:20 pm

    I got rage, straight off. And now I’m mad.

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  • lexie.b November 10, 2011, 10:01 pm

    Sweet, loyal, naive, elegant


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  • Sam November 10, 2011, 10:19 pm

    Patient – of the ER (or mental ward) is more like it!

    This is my first post. I have been reading for quite awhile and feel like I know many of you. Hello to everyone.

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    • Eljay November 11, 2011, 10:51 am

      Hi Sam! Welcome to our world. 🙂

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    • AKchic November 11, 2011, 1:57 pm

      Welcome to the ward!

      Funnily enough, I do answer my personal phone “psycho ward and daycare center, how may I direct your call?”.

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    caitie_didn't November 10, 2011, 10:32 pm

    haha, cute! I got happy, peaceful, genuine and elegant in that order. Flattering indeed.

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  • ncp November 10, 2011, 10:44 pm

    Patient, elegant, reserved, and witty.

    Ummm… what? I am NONE of these things! I CAN be patient on a good day if I’m well-rested and not hungry, but the other three? WITTY?

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  • cj November 10, 2011, 10:50 pm

    Impatient, genuine, elegant, sentimental.

    I laughed when I saw impatient. That’s completely true. I like elegant though. Not a word I would pick, but I think it works!

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    Kate B November 10, 2011, 10:56 pm

    Bay, love, overdramatic and one. Hm…

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  • Red_Lady November 11, 2011, 1:29 am

    Prey, peace, love, drama. I’m way too easy-going to have much drama in my life, and I’m not sure how prey applies to anything.

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  • TheOtherMe November 11, 2011, 7:57 am

    Love- Passionate- Eloquent -Sweet

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    parton_doll November 11, 2011, 9:39 am

    naive, witty, thoughtful, passionate

    Yep. That’s pretty much me.

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  • mcj2011 November 11, 2011, 10:32 am

    patient, reserved, peaceful and happy.

    I don’t know about this. I’m happy and mostly peaceful but my patience is not what it once was.

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    DudeInChicago November 11, 2011, 11:00 am

    Passionate, Honest, Elegant, Mental.


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    TaraMonster November 11, 2011, 11:08 am

    Ooo I like this game. My words were: charming, passionate, elegant, and genuine.

    Passionate and genuine are very accurate. The other two, well, I sure hope they’re true!

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  • Amy November 11, 2011, 11:24 am

    Elegant, Happy, Talented, and Restless. 3 for 4 – Elegant does NOT describe me! And I’m working SO hard at being more calm – but my nature is very restless.

    And a side note – I just LOVE DEAR WENDY!!!!!

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  • Meg November 11, 2011, 11:37 am

    Insecure, witty, sweet, and talented. That’s pretty much right. If “socially awkward” was there it would have been prefect considering I apologize to book cases when I walk into them, and turn a special shade of “Meg Red” when I talk to unfamiliar people. Or to guys….any guy…even the FedEx guy

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  • Mainer November 11, 2011, 11:54 am

    VERY bored today, so I went thru this thing:

    I counted 41 descriptive words total. 30 were typically seen as positive traits, 14 typically seen as negative (with 3 that could be either/or depending on preference). That means you had a 73% chance or seeing a positive trait and 34% chance of seeing a negative one (not counting words that stick out easier than others, which in this case would be shorter words or letter-order that sticks out more than others). Reading horizontally, 70% of the words appeared (29). Of those, 20 were positive and 12 negative (69% chance of reading a positive vs 41% a negative). If you were scanning vertically, only about 28% of the words appeared (12). Of those, a majority were positive (10), which meant you had a 83% chance of reading a positive word (vs a 16% chance of negative, since there were only 2 of them).

    A majority of the words were 8 character long, with half of them being negative and half being positive (12 total, 6 of each). The longest words were all positive (2 that were 13 characters) and the shortest words (3 that were 3 letters) were split (one negative, one positive, one that should be both). Here are the words and their perceived association:

    lazy (-)
    happy (+)
    dim (-)
    patient (+)
    genuine (+)
    elegant (+)
    peaceful (+)
    reserved (+/-)
    witty (+)
    sentimental (+)
    mental (-)
    lovely (+)
    dependent (-)
    loyal (+)
    lethargic (-)
    dramatic (-)
    talented (+)
    charismatic (+)
    honest (+)
    naive (-)
    shy (+/-)
    passionate (+)
    insecure (-)
    thoughtful (+)
    eloquent (+)
    restless (-)
    outspoken (+/-)
    outgoing (+)
    sweet (+)

    charming (+)
    courageous (+)
    compassionate (+)
    calculating (+)
    stubborn (-)
    hot (+)
    understanding (+)
    helpful (+)
    politie (+)
    critical (-)
    caring (+)
    graceful (+)

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    • Eljay November 11, 2011, 12:53 pm

      Holy Crap! You ARE bored! But this is fascinating stuff. Thanks for doing the heavy lifting & breaking it down for us.

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    Seattle _lili November 11, 2011, 12:21 pm

    I saw insecure,thoughtful, restless and sweet. I think its 4 for 4 about me, even though admitting the insecure part sucks!

    I really liked the breakdown Meg!!

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  • mf November 11, 2011, 12:32 pm

    talented, naive, eloquent, prey.

    Yeah, I’m a little worried about that last one.

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    jess of citygirlsworld.com November 11, 2011, 1:11 pm

    Happy, Patient, Genuine, Elegant. I

    I’m so blessed! Is this a trick??

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  • jane November 11, 2011, 4:06 pm

    hmm. i saw secure and then insecure..

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    • Addie Pray November 11, 2011, 4:20 pm

      Lol. And then you saw “indecisive” didn’t you?

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  • belongsomewhere November 11, 2011, 4:52 pm

    I got “graceful,” “helpful,” “lovely,” and “charming.”
    The most accurate is “helpful,” the least is “graceful,” and I’m not totally convinced of either of the others.

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  • Slamy November 11, 2011, 6:14 pm

    I got “peaceful,” “reserved,” “overdramatic,” and “kind.”

    Huh. Yup.

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  • Oddy November 14, 2011, 12:12 pm

    Sweet, thoughtful, insecure, overdramatic. Sweet, kinda, i guess on good days, then again anybody could be sweet. Either way interesting experiment:)

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  • Miss Lynn November 14, 2011, 6:14 pm

    Honest, talented, passionate, restless….I’m not 100% about talented but my parents seem to think so 🙂

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  • m November 14, 2011, 7:44 pm

    genuine, talent, happy, sentimental 🙂

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