“I’m Jealous of my Fiancé’s Daughter!”

My boyfriend of seven months, whom I am engaged to, has recently reunited with his four year-old daughter from a previous relationship whom, because of factors beyond his control, he has not seen in a year. Ever since the reunion, he has begun hanging his daughter’s pictures everywhere (pictures of just her and pictures of the two of them together). I know this is awful, but I feel jealous of their relationship. Not only do I feel that I don’t fit in with them, I actually don’t have a desire to fit in, although that may change later on in our marriage. I have been sick to my stomach ever since the…

“I’m White But My Girlfriend Fantasizes About Black Men”

I’ve been dating a girl for a few months whom I’ve been friends with for years. Recently, we got to talking about what kind of people we’re attracted to/what turns us on. Her answer was black men. We’re both white, so that just made me really insecure. Not only that but she said that she wants to have a black baby, too. I asked her if this is all because of the rumors about the size of black men and she replied with: “It’s not really a rumor.” She’s a nurse and she went on to tell me that she “sees things” from time to time. What makes matters worse is that…

“I’m in the Middle of Co-Worker Love Triangle”

I started dating a coworker a few months ago. Things were going great, but I had to miss the company holiday party to attend my grandmother’s funeral out of state. My boyfriend still went to the party as it was sure to be a great time for him. Fast forward a week: I was at my desk next to another coworker who had sole access to all of the photographs taken at a photo booth at the office shindig. A mutual friend, “Jenna,” came by and asked my coworker if all of the photos were going to be accessible to the whole office. She seemed a little worried about some of them,…

“Should I Have Dinner With My Ex’s New Girlfriend?”

I dated Mike for a brief period of time and we broke up over a year ago. We’ve remained friends, as we have lots in common, and he is a genuinely good person. We have not hooked up after the breakup — and won’t ever! The friendship is truly platonic. I only see him a few times a month, and always in public places (ie. lunch at a restaurant). We used to see each other more often, but since we have started dating new people, that’s naturally decreased. He is in a relationship with a girl named Megan, who, from what he tells me, has a very controlling and confrontational personality. I…

“I Was Invited To My Ex’s Wedding, But I Don’t Want To Go”

Adam, a good friend of mine, who also happens to be an ex-boyfriend, has invited me to his upcoming wedding, but I have no desire whatsoever to go. Adam and I dated about five years ago and broke up because I was 19 and not ready for the type of relationship that he was looking for. We remained close friends, and shortly after, he started dating Debbie, his now fiancée. For a while, we all got along fine. Debbie knew Adam and I were friends, but I only saw her a handful of times over the next couple years while I saw Adam on an almost weekly basis. At first, she was…

“People Keep Bugging Us To Have Kids”

It’s time again for “Shortcuts.” For every question, I’ll give my advice in three sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss dealing with nosy family members, the right time to make a relationship official, and a relationship that screams MOA!

“I’m Dating An Incarcerated Alcoholic”

I’m an 18 year old college student, and the guy I like just turned 30 last week. We met on an online dating site about a year ago and started out just chatting. We now Skype constantly and see each other as much as possible. He lives about six hours away but has plans to move closer to me so hopefully some day we can move in together and start a real life. He’s currently incarcerated (fell asleep drunk in the wrong apartment). He’s also decided to get help (rehab) for his alcohol use and find the roots of his issues so he can truly be happy. His alcohol consumption has never…

“My Boyfriend Collects Photos Of His Female Friends On Facebook”

I am in my late 20s and have been with my boyfriend for about five years and living with him for about 3.5 years. This past spring my computer broke, and he gave me his to use. While I was using it, a bunch of porn sites came up in the autofill, as well as his download folder. Curious as to what he was downloading, I opened the folder and found hundreds of pictures of his (and my) female friends taken from Facebook. We were kinda in a bad place at the time; sex was infrequent at best — once every month or so — and I had given up moving (for…

“My Husband’s Mistress Confronted Me”

A little over two years ago, I discovered that I was pregnant with my boyfriend’s baby. We were both incredibly excited and a few weeks later, he proposed. The wedding was this past summer, and everything about it was perfect. However, a month later, I received a long and detailed message on Facebook from a woman who said she had started dating my husband a few weeks after he began dating me, and that he didn’t break off their relationship until he found out about my pregnancy. She said that she knew about me the whole time. She also sent a link to an amateur adult website where there were pictures and…

“How Do I Tell My New Boyfriend About My Misdemeanor?”

A couple of years ago I was dating my loser of an ex-boyfriend and on our way to a concert in Tennessee, we got pulled over. He had marijuana in the car and since he had a previous felony for marijuana, he asked if I would take the blame for it. The officer that pulled us over told me that I would have to fly back for court, pay some fines, and after a year of probation, it would be cleared from my record. My ex promised to pay for everything, so I took the blame, a decision I wished a million times I could go back and change. Flash forward to…

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