Your Turn

I’ve been dating my best friend for one and a half years after knowing him for three years prior to our relationship. We met at work right before my freshman year in college. We dated people during our friendship and finally started to express romantic interest once the two of us were single at the same time in May of last year. Since we were already best friends, we didn’t need to go through that awkward phase of impressing each other. We were able to talk about kids, marriage, and living together comfortably four or five months into our relationship. I felt undeniably happy every day with him. But lately, I’ve noticed…

I’ve been with my boyfriend, let’s call him “R,” for four years now. We met at university, which is in a small town, and dated for two years while we were studying. Then we both graduated (me with my undergrad in my chosen profession, him with his master’s), and I decided to move back to my home city to do a post-grad degree at another university. We broke up when I left, but R stayed in that town (it’s where he was raised and he’s never really lived anywhere else) getting research work with the university when he could but mostly just working as a server at a local cafe while staying…

I’m a single, fit woman who just recently moved back to the area where I’m currently living, and I have been actively pursuing new friendships. I have been meeting some great people and was initially drawn to a girl who is originally from my hometown. We hit it off and decided to get together. Well, I invited her to a beach party this past summer and, since she is married and goes everywhere with her husband, I invited her to invite him as well. Ever since the beach party, though, this girl and I have not really hung out and, what’s more, I get the feeling that she is jealous of me…

This LW requested feedback specifically from readers, so I hope you can help her out. I have been sleeping with a certain man for going on five years now. During that time we have each gone through major life changes. I became a mom (to another man’s son) and he became re-employed after a rather debilitating lay-off. His priorities are on work and making up for lost time while mine are on raising my son and developing my career. We respect each other and treasure the time we are able to spend together, which is spent watching sports or in bed, our two favorite pastimes. I’m writing because I adore and respect…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), or submit a question for advice. In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m in my late 20s and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for six years now. Last year we moved to a different city together where we knew nobody. He was going to school and I was working. Once the school…