I’ve said many times, this site would not be what it is, and not be on its way to what I hope it will become, without your active participation. It’s the community here that really makes it, and I’m really grateful for all your insightful, funny, hopeful, and provocative comments — so much so, that I decided to highlight your words once a week in a new feature called “Comment of the Week.” This week’s honor goes to prolific commenter, “Fast Eddie,” who had this moving comment on the post about loneliness:
While I was sailing up and down the west coast (San Francisco to Mexico) there were 3-4 days at a stretch with no other living thing on the boat. This called “single handing”. At day 3 the seagulls started talking to me and the next day I answered them. OK, I’m kidding but the loneliness was very real. The only human contact I had was via the HAM radio for a few minutes a day. That situation is different then being in the work-a-day world where you can go to a coffee shop and strike up a conversation 24/7.
Living alone is a skill and I was good at it. The decor was my taste and the menu my choice. Now being married everything’s a compromise but when she’s gone for a few days the walls start to move inward. I don’t know if it’s specifically her or just human company that I miss during those times.
Decades ago I was in a relationship with a wonderful woman who died while I was holding her hand. I still miss her very specifically and likely always will.
fast eddie February 11, 2011, 5:08 pm
I’m seldom at a loss of words, but this distinction is way beyond any aspiration I previously considered attainable leaving me almost (but not quite) silent. I’m particularly honored that Wendy choose a 69 year old married male for the inaugural presentation. Thank you very much dearest Wendy and to the many commentators that replied to my posts. It’s the dialogue that we have here that benefits all of us with it’s varied viewpoints and I’m glad to be a part of it.
fast eddie February 11, 2011, 10:57 pm
In the original post I neglected to include that it was during that long voyage that I vowed to find someone and make a go of it. Less then a year later Onnie and I got together, but was 8 years before we got married, no sense in rushing things 😉
Nina February 11, 2011, 8:28 pm
That was touching, fast eddie. A nice first selection for this new feature.
TheOtherMe February 12, 2011, 8:36 am
I’m sorry I hadn’t caught the original post, this was very touching and brought a tear to my eye.
Congratulations on being the 1st to have made “Comment of the week”
fast eddie February 12, 2011, 10:06 am
Thank you, I remember when you got the well deserved honorable mention on TF. It’s a wonderful feeling to be validated, but now I wish I’d done a better job on that post and will put more thought into future ones.
cdj0815 February 14, 2011, 9:58 am
May God bless you and keep you and yours Fast Eddie.
MellaJade February 14, 2011, 11:12 am
Eddie, what a wonderful, moving post. I am glad you are here to share such deep, heartfelt thoughts with us. All the best to you and Onnie today on Valentine’s Day. I hope you’ve got some nice plans.
Thanks for sharing,