Comments of the Week

This site wouldn’t be what it is without the active participation of all of you. Your insightful, funny, smart comments add different perspectives and valuable advice that I’m sure goes a long way in helping others sort through the issues in their own relationships. After the jump, some of the more memorable comments of the week (maybe you’ll even see your own!).



Caitie_didn’t in “I Can’t Choose Between My Two Exes!”: “Exes are exes for a reason (or several) and if you can’t decide between two people, you probably shouldn’t be with either of them. When you’re involved with one person, you shouldn’t be having “what if?” thoughts about an ex on a regular basis.”

Elisabeth in “Am I Superficial to Worry About My Boyfriend’s Money Troubles?”: “Money is not a superficial problem, and you’re absolutely right to put so much stock in it. His debt may run deeper than you even realize, and his attitude about it (too late now, so live it up) is especially troubling. He obviously doesn’t have any plans to get out of debt and it may not be achievable in his lifetime. Do you want the burden of that debt (and its influence on your credit score) if this should move further?”

JustMe in “Am I Superficial to Worry About My Boyfriend’s Money Troubles?”: “I guess I’m kinda surprised that more isn’t being made about the fact that this guy could so easily screw over a friend. $1000 isn’t chump change, but no matter the amount, that a man would blow off a debt like that doesn’t speak well about his character or his integrity. I would not really be friends with – let alone date – a person that had no respect for their friends like that.

Naneenya in “20 Things You Can Totally Say to a Significant Other”: “When my boyfriend gets all antsy about throwing in a box of tampons with the groceries, I simply remind him that I could NOT be having a period and a baby instead! Rarely is there arguing with that!”

Desiree in “I’m Worried About Family in Japan and My Boyfriend Doesn’t Care”: “I can’t believe I am going to do this, but I will say one small thing in defense of the boyfriend. Some people (often men) DO NOT know how to respond to tragic situations. Sometimes it is because their lives have been relatively devoid of personal loss, other times it is from a lack of emotional intelligence. Sometimes, in absence of knowing how to react, these people will choose not to react altogether. Poor choice, but there it is. Now, what this doesn’t explain is the boyfriend getting his feelings hurt over the girlfriend not expressing enough enthusiasm in his trip. That is the behavior of a five year old. And, regardless of the source of his apparent indifference, does she really want to be with someone unable to cope with life’s curveballs? I certainly wouldn’t.”

ReginaRey in “My Family Thinks My Boyfriend Isn’t Attractive Enough”: “Are YOU attracted to Mark? You seem to have somewhat fallen for him in regard to his personality, but are you also physically attracted to him? No matter how much you like someone, or want to like someone, to have a romantic relationship with that person you need to have a phyiscal attraction…otherwise, all you’ve got is a great friendship.’

ReginaRey in “20 Things You Shouldn’t Say to a Significant Other”: #21. “Whoops! That girl we had a threesome with? Yeah, she’s pregnant.”