Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Comments of the Week

This site wouldn’t be what it is without the active participation of all of you. Your insightful, funny, smart comments add different perspectives and valuable advice that I’m sure goes a long way in helping others sort through the issues in their own relationships. After the jump, some of the more memorable comments of the week (maybe you’ll even see your own!).


Desiree in “Should I Tell My FWB About My Miscarriage?”: I actually agree with you. Women, by a fact of biology, are more in tune with the consequences (or blessings, depending on a woman’s situation) of sex. I think men, in their uterus-free state, can more easily ignore these consequences. A reminder of the potential significance of their personal choices is not a bad thing. Wendy mentioned that this girl should “use multiple forms of birth control” as a result of this experience. But doesn’t the guy deserve the same advice?

callmehobo in “Why Is My Ex Bragging About His New Girlfriend?”: RR- I read your last sentence and this is immediately what leapt to my mind….

“Dear Wendy,

I’m a strong, independent black woman who recently moved in with her bf of three months. However, when we started moving stuff into our new shared apartment- I noticed several of his moving boxes were labeled ‘White power’ and ‘KKK stuff”. Should I be worried, or should I just MOA?”

SpyGlassez in “How Can I Stop Comparing Men To My Best Guy Friend?”: Don’t think of each date in terms of “MARRIAGE! KIDS! NOW!” because guys can smell desperation, and it smells like a zombie saying, “BRAAAAIIIIINNNSS!”

_jsw_ in “I’ve Only Been Married Seven Months And Am Already Miserable”: […] I have complete faith that you can be a wonderful single parent because, right now, that’s exactly what you are. Unless there’s an almost miraculous change in him, you’ll be better off alone – and available for when an actual man catches your interest. I know it’s easy to bash on strangers, and I know I don’t know your husband, but what you’ve written provides very little leverage to see good in him.

ReginaRey in 20 Things It’s Okay to Say to Your BFF: To go along with number 11… : ‘Nope, definitely NOT a good idea to Facebook message your ex boyfriend’s new girlfriend, ‘for her sake’.”

lemongrass in “I Want to Get Married So His Parents Will Be Okay With Us Living Together”: If the end of this sentence: “I want to get married because” is anything other than “we love each other, have similar life goals and core values, and want to make the commitment to spend the rest of our lives together,” then you are getting married for the wrong reasons and it will not last.

kerrycontrary in “Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?”: LW 1- it may not be once a cheater, always a cheater…but I’m pretty sure it is “consistently a cheater, always a cheater.”

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  • Laurel March 25, 2011, 3:07 pm

    Callmehobo’s made me laugh out loud! Good one!

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    • spaceboy761 March 25, 2011, 4:09 pm

      We did this as a prank to my freshman year roommate. After he guilted us into carrying all of his stuff halfway across the campus, we busted out the Sharpies and wrote “LUBE”, “GAY PORN”, and “DEAD HOOKER HEADS” on the boxes.

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    • callmehobo March 25, 2011, 9:13 pm

      awww, thanks!

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  • Elle March 25, 2011, 3:17 pm

    Just an idea for Wendy, but I figured I’d post it here to get some feedback from fellow DearWendy-ers.

    Would you guys like to but a t-shirt with DearWendy logo on it? I would like that very much.

    Or t-shirts with some of the one-liners – some of them are really good. (My favorite so far: “There’s no understanding crazy.”)

    Or mugs. I like mugs :).

    I like 🙂

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    • WatersEdge March 25, 2011, 3:28 pm

      I’d also like if we could create a secret handshake and a signal, such as an ear tug/wink combo, so we can recognize each other in public.

      I’m only half joking. Yes to t-shirts!

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    • Desiree March 25, 2011, 4:13 pm

      I would love that, but I probably wouldn’t use it around family. I’ve made too many comments on here that would not be appreciated…

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      • MissDre March 25, 2011, 4:17 pm

        ROFL me too!

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      Wendy March 25, 2011, 6:34 pm

      Aw, how flattering! My sister sent me a picture once of mugs she designed on that website — what is it, Zaggle or something like that? — with my Dear Wendy head shot on them. I told her no one would want to buy a mug with my photo on it! But, maybe some of our one-liners and favorites phrases (like MOA!) or something like that would be fun…

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      • callmehobo March 25, 2011, 8:27 pm


        Wendy- I must have a MOA mug for my tea.

      • RoyalEagle0408 March 26, 2011, 11:03 am

        I too need a MOA mug.

      • kamsgirl March 26, 2011, 12:42 pm

        Yes to this. Some of those one-liners are great and NEED to be on a t-shirt.

  • lemongrass March 25, 2011, 6:51 pm


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  • Red_Lady March 25, 2011, 8:13 pm

    Love lemongrass’s comment. I always read about reasons NOT to get married, which usually leave me thinking, ‘so why SHOULD you get married?” So thank you for that!

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  • SpyGlassez March 25, 2011, 11:12 pm

    Aah, I can stop commenting in peace – I have achieved Comment of the Week status! j/k, these are all great.

    And I would totally buy a “There’s no understanding crazy” teeshirt or mug.


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