This site wouldn’t be what it is without the active participation of all of you. Your insightful, funny, smart comments add different perspectives and valuable advice that I’m sure goes a long way in helping others sort through the issues in their own relationships. After the jump, some of the more memorable comments of the week (maybe you’ll even see your own!).
_jsw_ in New Beginnings: “I do feel sorry for the kid, though. His/her teenage years will be difficult.
‘You don’t know anything, Mom!’
‘Well, millions of people follow my advice daily, but I’m sure you’re right, and your little friend Timmy/Susie knows more about it all than I do. By the way, if you don’t clean up your room, I’ll post a picture of it in my blog.'”
ape escape in His Take: “What Do These Relationship Red Flags Mean?”: “MOA MOA MOA MOA MOA MOA. Seriously? Look, I got stood up this weekend for a planned date. No joke. Is it ever going to happen again? No. Because I won’t give someone who bailed on me with no explanation, no apology, nada, another chance. I refuse to be so blatantly disrespected. And you allow this to happen once a month? Girl. There are so many potential explanations for that behavior, but NONE OF THEM ARE GOOD.”
phillyD in “Should I Tell My Dad About My Mom’s Remarriage?”: “I ended an 18 year marriage and within a year [I’ve found someone] I’m completely serious with and would absolutely consider marying. My marriage was over years before our divorce, and by the time the divorce was final (which is itself a relief), I had already mourned my marriage, had learned from my mistakes and was ready to move on without an additional extended period of getting over things.
The point is, no one knows the parents relationship but them. This could have been something both mom and dad had already knew was coming years ago, but stayed together for the kids.
So bravo to the mom – it’s hard enough to find someone you really love – even better if you can do it when you get a second chance!”
Jess of CityGirlsWorld.com in “My Boyfriend Refuses To Have Dinner With My Parents!”: “I don’t know your parents but I’d add this. I’d be cautious about introducing a guy to my parents if he’s seems in anyway not ready. Mostly because I wouldn’t want to expose my PARENTS to too many men in my life, have them feel disappointed if it didn’t work out, etc. Meeting them is a special privilege.
ReginaRey in “He Never Expresses His Feelings For Me. Should I MOA?”: “Why, why, why oh WHY do all of us women keep doing this?! Once and for all – if you have to convince someone you love to show you affection, to be considerate of your needs, and to I dunno…ACT LIKE YOUR BOYFRIEND, you’re in the wrong damn relationship! If your boyfriend has made it clear he isn’t going to even cover the FUNDAMENTALS of being soemone’s partner, then show yourself enough respect to leave the loser and find someone who doesn’t need to be convinced! They aren’t going to change, and you shouldn’t have to cajole someone into being a good partner. People who truly love you and want to be with you no matter what are HAPPY, no GIDDY, to pick you up at the airport, hold your hand in public, and NOT MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE A PROSTITUTE!! Rant Over.”
MissDre in “He Never Expresses His Feelings For Me. Should I MOA?”: “We women are telling each other over and over again, never to settle for less! We are worth having our needs met and if a guy isn’t meeting our every need, we should MOA! Of course it is true that we should never settle for less, but we have to realize that people aren’t perfect and we can’t have every single thing we want in a man. If that were the case, relationships would be easy. But they are not, so we DO need to compromise on certain things.
So a lot of the women who write in, I think they are just struggling to figure out what they should and should not compromise on. They see a pro, and they see a con, and they are not sure which one outweighs the other.
Girls, all I can say is, if he does “this” but not “that”… just ask yourself, which one is more important in the long run?”