Dear Wendy’s All-Time Most Popular Wedding Columns

wedding 4When I started this site over four years ago, I had no idea that weddings would prove to be such a controversial and emotionally-charged topic. But over the last few years, I have received more wedding-related letters than on any other topic. In honor of Wedding Week here on Dear Wendy, here is a round-up of the site’s all-time most popular wedding columns. (I know at least a few will spark a trip down memory lane…)


“My In-Laws Never Gave us a Wedding Gift”
The LW wondered whether she should come out and ask her brand new in-laws where the hell their wedding gift was.

Shortcuts: “Can I Ask for Plus One to My Cousin’s Wedding?”
Oh, remember the old DW commenters who would get real riled up over anything wedding-related. If not, then enjoy this trip down memory lane.

“Do We Have to Invite Plus Ones To Our Wedding?”
This woman wanted to know whether she really HAD to invite spouses even though she’d never met them. Doing so would make the guest list almost twice as long! And, literally, there just was NO space in the venue for all these extras.

“Did My Friend Just Ask Me to Not Be Her Bridesmaid Anymore?”
The LW here is a friend of a friend and I ran into her recently. She didn’t go to the wedding. Also, her baby is super cute.

“Our Wedding is Days Away and He Can’t Stop Texting His Ex”
I wonder if this LW canceled the wedding. I hope she did.

“People Won’t Stop Posting About My Wedding on Facebook!”
This LW was annoyed that friends were posting pictures of her wedding invitation on Facebook and Instagram, worrying that unexpected/uninvited guests would see the pictures and show up at the wedding.

“I’m Pissed that My Boyfriend is Going to a Wedding Without Me”
This is what happens when you don’t include “plus-ones.”

“I Refuse to Pay for My Daughter’s Wedding to Her Horrible Fiancé”
The LW presented her daughter and the daughter’s fiancé with a symbolic check for $5,000, to which the fiancé sneered, “Ha, I could save that much in a year, what with my bonuses.” What followed was more insults and nasty behavior.

My Fiancé’s Groomsman Has No Teeth!
Never forget!

“Should I ask Wedding Guests Why I Haven’t Received a Gift From Them?”
You know, probably not…

“My Friends Are Already Bailing on My Non-Traditional Wedding Celebration”
Reading this letter, many commenters wondered: Is it a wedding celebration if the wedding was three months earlier and none of the guests were invited?

“I Don’t Want Kids at My Destination Wedding”
The LW updated us here.

“She Wants to Bring a Baby to Our Wedding”
Not only did she want to bring her newborn baby to a wedding that was supposed to be kid-free, but she also wanted him to be a ring bearer to boot because, you know, it’s all about her.

“Being a Bridesmaid is Breaking My Budget!”
That shit’s expensive.

“Should I Tell My Friend Why I Don’t Want Her in My Wedding?”
I’d be surprised if these two are still on speaking terms.


  1. Don´t remind me about the old commenters who were wedding etiquette crazy!!!
    Wedding Week is so pleasant and stress free!!! 🙂

    Shame I don´t have time for the walk down memory lane, we leave for the airport in a little over an hour!!!!

    1. Avatar photo Addie Pray says:


    2. Have a blast! Eat some eggs benedict! And biscuits and gravy, I would like a full report please!

  2. I really wish we could get some one (or more) year later updates from these LWs… As annoying as it is when LWs come back and are like “here’s all these additional details that totally changes the story” at least we get closure knowing that they read the advice and whether they took it.

    1. I know! For the called “Did My Friend Just Ask Me to Not Be Her Bridesmaid Anymore?” the wedding was supposed to be Memorial Day weekend this year! She has to have a good update now!

      1. Sunshine Brite says:

        I want to know if the no teeth bride just kind of snapped out of it. She was so wrapped up in the one little detail as a source of stress she was missing the big picture.

    2. Crazy_Pug_Lady says:

      I really wanted to know what happened with “I Refuse to Pay for My Daughter’s Wedding to Her Horrible Fiancé”.

  3. Oh boy, I only made it so far on the comments on the 2nd link… and then I ran into Addie Pray’s “your mom” thread just a few comments down and almost spit out my cookie (which is a perfectly good waste of a delicious cookie!) so I had to stop.

    1. Avatar photo Addie Pray says:

      Ruh roh, do i need to go take a look? I’m scared. I got heated one too many times on wedding threads.

      1. You weren’t heated. You were confused 😛 And trying so hard to make the your mom jokes work.

  4. Whatever happened to Gator Girl? or ReginaRey(ray?) – I am only a lurker but they used to be all up on her all the time!

    1. ReginaRey became a life coach(?) So now she presumably gives out advice but to paying customers. Addie Pray might know, didn’ t the 2 of them meet in real life?

    2. Whoops – by her I meant here 🙂

      1. Haha…I read that as the slang “her”! 🙂

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