M family doesn’t like this idea and wants me to keep dating him long-distance for longer and/or for him to move here to our state, but that means I won’t be able to see him for months so thathe can save to move here and it’s hard being away from each other. We want to be with each other and see where this can go. It may seem fast to my family, but it doesn’t to me and my boyfriend.
I feel incredibly safe with him and more myself than with anyone else. My dad hates the fact that my boyfriend is 34 and I’m 26. My brother and sis-in-law are very religious and make me feel like everything I’m doing with my boyfriend is wrong, and they don’t want to meet him.
I’m so torn because I want to go live my life and make my decisions and be with whom I want to be without making my family upset or causing them to look down on me. I feel like they will eventually get over it, but I don’t know how long it will take.
Am I really making a bad choice to go live with him and get to see how we will actually be with each other when we make it official living together? Please share some advice on this or direct me to a post that is similar. I would greatly appreciate it. — Ready to Move?
At 26, it’s past time for you to be making life decisions based on what YOU want, what makes YOU happy, and what best supports YOUR goals and dreams and ambitions. Sure, it’s nice to have your family’s blessing and support, but this isn’t their life and they don’t get to call the shots. THAT SAID, it’s very important to have your eyes wide open, and to have a plan, when moving across the country and in with someone you only know through monthly visits over the past ten months. Lucky for you, I’ve written lots of advice on the subject, informed in part by my own move across the country to be with my long-distance boyfriend (who has now been my husband for over ten years). Here is my most helpful advice in thinking about making such a move and in navigating the transition:
8 Things You Need to Do Before You Move For Love (pay particular attention to points 5-8)
If anyone else has suggestions, tips, and advice for deciding how and whether to move for a long-distance relationship, weigh in below!