Hi! Welcome to the launch of If you’ve found yourself here, you’re probably familiar with my advice column on The Frisky, where I’ve been a contributor since 2008. While I still plan on making regular appearances there and elsewhere, from now on, this will be the official home of the Dear Wendy advice column. I am very excited about this next step and I promise to do everything I can to make this the kind of community you want to spend some of your precious free time. If you’ve been an avid follower of my column, you’ll find the same kind of letters and advice you’re used to reading, plus a bunch of new features I’m excited to debut.

No matter how hard I work, though, this site can’t be a success without you, so I encourage you to leave comments, engage with each other, make friends and as always, send me those relationship questions you need help figuring out. Your questions are the heart of this site, and it’s with utmost respect and gratitude that I invite you to send them in. I’ll post the first set of questions (and my answers) later today, but in the meantime please check out my about page, as well as my FAQ page (where I highlight my commenting policy), and feel free to introduce yourself in the comments!


  1. 2011 – The Year of “My Way”! YO!

  2. So excited about your new site! You have such a talent for seeing relationship problems cleaerly for what they are- I’ve loved following your column on The Frisky and can’t wait to read it here, too!

  3. So excited to see this! I love reading your columns at the Frisky and was a little worried about not getting to read them any more!

  4. Congratulations Wendy!! Wishing you all the best with this site!
    I will definitely be returing to this site often as I love your columns.

  5. SO happy for you! i can’t wait to see what else you’ve got up your super cute (and i’d imagine very very warm) sweater sleeve! love your honesty and will be following here and the frisky <3

  6. Congrats! I started reading the Frisky solely because of your fabulous column, so am doubly excited there is now a web site devoted entirely to “Dear Wendy”. Looking forward to tuning in regularly!

  7. Your column has always been a firm favourite on The Frisky, and I can’t wait to follow you here as well! Good luck xx

  8. TheFabulousmzm says:

    Yay Wendy! Can’t wait for your answers to the TONS of letters I’m sure will come pouring in. I see a very bright future for!

  9. Wendy I think this is such a great move for you, I feel like a total stalker since I’ve been following you on CityWendy and at the frisky for about a year- but I just wanted to say that I think you are fantastic- absolutely fantastic and I am so excited to waste days of my life on your new website. Congratulations!

  10. Longtime reader, first time commenting…
    Congrats! Site looks great and I cannot wait to get your consultation on all my relationship woes. Get ready… 🙂

  11. belongsomewhere says:

    Congrats! I’ve been reading your column since it debuted on The Frisky, and it’s incredibly exciting that it has its own site now!

  12. Yay, Wendy! Will “Dear Wendy” still be a feature on The Frisky, or will you only be publishing it here from now on?

    1. You’ll need to come here to read most of my columns, which will be published daily, but I’ll publish one or two per week on The Frisky, too.

  13. Hooray!!! I am so excited about this new development, Wendy! I already bookmarked this page and look forward to visiting every day!

  14. delilahgem says:

    Yay Wendy! I’ve been so excited for this since you announced on Twitter!! Congratulations!
    I can’t wait to see what happens next.

  15. ReadingIsFundamental says:

    Congrats, Wendy!

  16. Awesome! Congrats. I love your stuff so I’ll be back everyday for sure…

  17. WatersEdge says:

    I’m in, Wendy! Let’s do this thing!

  18. Congrats on your new Adventure Wendy!

  19. WatersEdge says:

    one comment- I’m sure you have your reasons for going the moderation route with the comments, but if there’s a way to make it so that they post quickly/instantly, that would be good. adding to the discussion in live time is half the fun of the frisky

    1. I see your point. Maybe I will un-moderate comments on a trial basis for a few days and see how it goes…

    2. OK, I have it set so each person will need to be approved by me the first time he or she leaves a comment. After you are initially approved, your future comments will publish immediately. Let me know if that isn’t the case.

      1. I like this idea. It worked for me.

      2. WatersEdge says:

        It worked! Thanks!

  20. Absolutely love your column on The Frisky. Can’t wait to see them on your site.

  21. Congrats! I love reading your column on TF, so getting to read it every day here is awesome! 🙂

  22. Hi Wendy! Sorry to hear about your gig at TheFrisky, but I’m glad you have this site! Can’t wait to keep reading your columns here!

  23. Another fun Wendy site! Looking forward to new columns and whatever the “extras” are going to be.

  24. Congratulations Wendy! The new site looks great. What kind of new columns do you plan to feature on this site? More relationship advice or are you planning on branching out?

    (And wow. I didn’t realize you’d been at The Frisky that long.)

    1. Thanks! All the new features will be focused around relationships. But if there’s something in particular you think would be a fit for me to cover, feel free to email me with suggestions.

  25. Never mind. #mathFAIL You’ve been at The Frisky 3 years, but you’ve written a TON of advice. I love going back through the archives for columns you did in the past. I was really interested in finding a follow up to that LW who said her husband was getting verbally abusive because she started wearing her hair natural (a.k.a. not chemically relaxed).

    Any follow up on that case?

  26. Congratulations! I love The Frisky and Dear Wendy is one of my favorite columns. Plan to keep up on both sites – double the distraction!

  27. Congratulations Wendy. Since I discovered The Frisky a few months ago your columns have been great favorites. Best of luck.

  28. heidikins says:

    Yaaay! So exciting! Can’t wait for things to get rolling!


  29. Congrats! This is awesome!!

  30. Just was curious as to why the Feed Burner isn’t working. Is there a bug?

  31. Yay for continuations in new locations! All the best!

  32. Hello Wendy,

    I stumbled upon your advice column a few months ago and have since been reading it and your blog regularly – I love your writing!.
    In a strange way it feels as if I have a new friend I’m checking up on once or twice a week.
    Best of luck with!

    1. Thanks you! That’s always a nice compliment to receive.

  33. plasticepoxy says:

    I’m very excited! Most of my time on the Frisky was lurking reading Dear Wendy comments. Maybe I’ll actually participate now 🙂

  34. Kaiser Söze says:

    This is good news!
    Wendy, I look to see your general columns alongside the tough-love/advice you dish.


  35. Are you going to do LW updates over here too? Please say yes! I love those, even if sometimes I do want to reach through the computer screen and shake them.

    1. Yes! I’ve got one going up tomorrow.

  36. YAY!!!! A whole website dedicated to my favorite part of the whole Frisky!! I never made comments on the Frisky, but I have been reading your posts on a daily basis for the past 1 year. Congrats on your new adventure, Wendy! Looking forward to reading the column advice as well as anything else you offer.

  37. Well done Wendy!! Your column is one of my favourite on the Frisky and I love reading Citywendy, so I think this here website is going to be FABULOUS!

  38. I love you column – I’m so glad that you have your own site – Congrats!

  39. magichils says:

    Hi Wendy,

    Congratulations on your new website. I rarely comment online but I read your columns avidly and find them extremely helpful when applying bits of your advice to my own life. I think its brave of you to branch out and its obviously testament to the amount of readers and fans you have that there’s already so much response on the site.

    Happy 2011, I hope its a great year for you.

    1. Thank you. I hope 2011 is a great year for all of us!

  40. Congrats, Wendy! You’ve just streamlined my day, most of my visits to the Frisky was for your articles (well, that and This Week In Lady News). Wishing you much success with your new site!

  41. Congrats 🙂 glad to see this up I love your straight forward advice. 🙂

  42. Congratulations Wendy! Like everyone else I love your column on The Frisky, it’s great to see you branching out. I’m so looking forward to more of your great ideas and fabulous advice. I hope your site can become the huge success that it and you deserve! 🙂

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