Happy New Year, everyone!! I hope 2018 is off to a roaring start for you and that you were able to relax, reflect, and enjoy the company of people you love some time over the last couple of weeks. After a very busy few months, including: our bidding on our new home; going into contract; closing; starting renovations; moving in; and quickly getting ready for the holidays, all while parenting two very active kids, it was wonderful to slow down a bit and enjoy some fruits of all this labor. We didn’t leave town; we mostly stayed at home and baked cookies, built fires (we have the tiniest, cutest little fireplace in our new home!), did puzzles, took baths (Drew and I have our own tub in our master bathroom — a first since having kids — so I got Drew some men-focused bath products for Christmas and now he’s as hooked on the experience as I am and says it’s going to make him a “a different person”), read books (Drew got me this book, which I zoomed through in a few days), watched movies, and got very hygge. We hosted friends and family a few times, and we ventured out to friends’ homes to bask in some communal holiday glow together. It was lovely, and I feel refreshed and rejuvenated and ready to take on 2018.
To that end, my main goal (not even a “resolution” as that sounds like too much pressure) for 2018 is to relax. I feel happier, more energized, and like a better mom/wife/friend/daughter/citizen when I am not so stressed-out. I spent a lot of 2017 feeling stressed-out and I don’t want to bring that same energy into the new year. This past week has been wonderful practice for relaxing, and I want to continue some of the things I enjoyed in the final days of the year, like:
1. Taking regular baths (it’s so restorative and meditative for me).
2. Reading (books are great, but no shame in reading magazine articles, both online and off).
3. Ordering take-out, heating up quick Trader Joe’s frozen meals, making super easy dinners (like sweet potatoes and black bean salads or scrambled eggs with goat cheese and spinach) as opposed to spending an hour cooking a multi-course dinner for my family, two of whom will scoff at anything that isn’t a chicken nugget (well, ok, Joanie will also eat sushi).
4. Spending time with friends. I just started a bi-weekly neighborhood ladies night out that I hope will help keep me on track when I get lazy about scheduling time with pals sans kids. Family hang-outs are good too, and I am already pretty on top of scheduling those regularly.
5. Saying “no” to perfectionism. One way this is visible is that it’s been over a month since we moved into our new place and we do not have much on the walls yet. This is very out-of-character for me. In the 21 previous times I’ve moved, including all the times I moved as a kid, I had everything — I mean everything — in order and how I wanted it within days. Moving with two kids, and at the holidays, made doing that pretty impossible. When I did finally get a chance to catch my breath in the days following Christmas, hanging shit on the walls just wasn’t how I wanted to spend my time. I wanted to relax. I needed to relax. And so I did. And I feel better–and shit will get on the walls eventually, whatever.
6. I don’t care if Jackson does his homework. He’s six. What the fuck ever. He should not be assigned 30, 60, 90 minutes of homework a day anyway, that’s absurd. I’ll revisit this when he’s 12, but until then, whatever.
7. Stretching out. I use this guy every evening and it helps me wrinkle out the kinks and get in a good head space for a deep sleep.
8. Sleep? Did someone say sleep? Oh yeah, with a 2-1/2 year-old who is FINALLY sleeping through the night and no more babies in my future, Imma get reacquainted with that wonderful thing called A FULL NIGHT’S SLEEP, OH HELL YEAH.
Happy freaking 2018, y’all! I feel good things about it and I hope you do, too! What resolutions did you make, if any?